jtoorish:
I don't know what was going on in the daycare, but I do know that during the day the teachers are often looking for things that keep the kids engaged. To a 3 year old putting on make up or finger painting is probably pretty much the same thing.
This is probably one of those things that makes parents uncomfortable but to kids, it's just something fun to do. I think we project a lot of our insecurities and fears on our children.
I certainly understand your views Jeff, but where does it stop? What limits should teachers have with our children? I'm sure there was nothing more then good intentions from the three year olds teacher, but good intentions often pave the road to a place I'd rather not visit. Was the childs welfare jeopardized by a teacher actions... probably not, but does it make it ok to continue without permission from the parent?
I had a situation years ago that made me a very unpopular and very un cool mom to not only the teachers of the daycare, but also to some of the older children. The daycare picked up my daughters from school (ages 5 and 10) and transported them to the daycare facility. One of the teachers were allowing a very popular pop music radio station to be played during their 45 minute ride. Sounds pretty innocent, after all the kids just wanted entertainment. However, when my then five year old came home singing something about "It's getting hot in here, so take off all your clothes" I almost fainted. I had never heard that song a day in my life so it made things much worse. I immediately thought the worse. Someone is telling my child to take off her clothes because it was hot?????? What the heck..... Now, I'm certain that coming from a law enforcement background, I may be quicker to see the worse in the situation, but man.... that really scared me.
The Director of the daycare apologized, but my daughters mind could not be erased. To her, it was absolutely innocent, just something fun and cool that the bigger kids also enjoyed. The other bus riders werent very happy when they could no longer listen to the radio in the van, and thought I was mean. Oh well
If your kids like you ALL of the time, there is a really good chance that you arent doing your job as a parent.
I know this is apples and oranges, but I think it brings up an interesting point. There has to be limits in school, weather it's a daycare or a public/private school.