Little girls and makeup

[tonka97]

Attention non-intentional thread hijackers:

The OP issue was a 2 year old toddler, coming home with daycare applied makeup, without parental approval.

 

[TripletDad]

Simple fact - I had to supply my own sunscreen for Alex, AND provide written permission for it to be applied to him. This applies to every child at the school, not just Alex, who suffered mild Eczema when he was younger.

Do other childcare providers (other areas of the country/world?) not require this? I'm in Connecticut.

I had to do the same thing for my kids, although they do allow a single bottle to be shared between them. Same with any other "medication" including Desitin when they were younger.

 

[Jeff Toorish]

NOT trying to argue... but for the sake of discussion... growing up, maturity... how is letting a kid play with make up pushing them into maturity too early any more than allowing them the kind of competitive environment and extensive training needed to make a pre-olympic team???? Given the option, I would rather have my kids playing with make up, rather than pushing through the kinds of stress I see the kids enduring in athletics today. And those that do make it... I see interviews with 16 year old olympians who feel like their life is over... they have attained all their goals and dreams and have nothing more to live for... let's talk about pushing kids beyond their childhood... yikes!!!:shakehead

True. I agree.

I'm not a team sports fan at all. In fact, I often rant about the excesses of our sports oriented culture. But, for course, sports are there and some kids choose on their own to get involved.

Personally, I would prefer that she get move involved in the arts which are something you can do for your entire life.

As for the other question about kids maturing later, that was about emotional maturity, not physical maturity. The Society of Adolsecent Medicine not considers adolescence to extend to mid-20s or later. Clearly not everyone agrees with this, but certainly there is enough evidence to make it a theory worth exploring.

You know, when my son was about 15, he started listening to Eminem. I told him I liked Eminem, too. I even brought home one of his early CDs. Guess what...geez, my son decided if I liked Eminem, then Eminem was definately not cool. He stopped listening to Eminem and pretty much convinced his friends not to, either.

But getting back to the make-up question: I doubt a child of 3 really has much context for this. The original question was, was the OP a fuddy duddy. I sort of doubt it, a fuddy duddy would not have even asked the question.

Jeff

 

[Cacia]

Back to the three year old and the mom's reaction.

If you have strong reactions to *something relatively minor*, my take is you should do a "systems check" and try and decide if you are feeling uneasy or anxious about this person, because often our subconscious picks up on things and then it manifests itself through something specific like this. Sometimes these little acts are signs that should be pondered rather than estinguished.

Tonka, as far as the impurities in make-up...I am not much of a germ-a-phobe to be honest.... I think people should be more worked up about happy meals, myself.

Talk about cancer risks and health risks! I am pretty laid back, just don't be slipping my kids McDonalds at school. For a while, they were giving coupons for fries for books read, etc.

Keep your eye on the ball and the big picture, is what I tell myself daily.

 

[baitedstorm]

Of course that can happen. And it's unfortunate. But let's get real... do I examine every crayon, pencil, glue stick, fingerpaint, construction paper, snack, cup, paint apron, desk, chair, scissors, yarn, etc. etc. that my kids touch at school. OH PLEASE! call me a negligent parent, but I don't. Is there the possibility one of them could have a fatal reaction to something in the above list... yep, it's possible.

Those would be products that you would be aware of prior to distribution to your child. Things you could certainly expect to find in a classroom and most of which you would have supplied yourself. The point I'm making is simple... A teacher made a decision for someone else’s child and had no right to do so.
Seeing how you don't know me, let me assure you I'm not a stuck up, close minded, germ a phobic, tight butt of any sort. I'm very laid back, but when it comes to people making choices for my kids without my permission (unless it was to save their life) I get a little tweak.
I used such an outrageous example to try and define a point that clearly isn't working.



Catherine, that McDonald thing is a whole other beast :fruit:. I don't even want to watch them make it in fear of what I might see :sofa: but I, like a lot of parents have made that decision for my children on more then one occasion and have gotten them their nasty greasy little pleasures. But I certainly wouldn't take it upon myself to take someone else’s child without asking first.

 

[Cacia]

their nasty greasy little pleasures.

lol.

I am just saying that if you look at the real dangers effecting our kids and focus on those...it's a better use of our energies. I am a huge believer in choosing your battles.
The truth is, food is very political and it is killing our kids, on the installment plan.

But...not to get off topic.

 

[shakeybrainsurgeon]

Kids are only kids for a short while...no need to hurry them to adulthood. Makeup is fine when they are, oh, 28 or so... (can you tell I have only daughters?)

 

[Desert_Diver]

Kids are only kids for a short while...no need to hurry them to adulthood. Makeup is fine when they are, oh, 28 or so... (can you tell I have only daughters?)

Just to contribute to your daughter related ulcers... <grin>

I earn my living as an electronics engineer but for entertainment, I used to work as an EMT on the weekends. This was in Wendover, Nevada- the closest geographic location where Utahans may gamble legally. We had a 2 AM callout. A nineteen year old girl, out trolling for boys decided that the smoke in the casinos had made her eyes too red and unattractive. So she decided to give them a shot of Visine. She was a little vain, and a lot near sighted. Consequently, she wasn't wearing her glasses. She mistook the super glue used to fasten fake finger nails on for her Visine.

Yup. You guessed it. She shot the super glue into her eyes. We got there in time and flushed her eyes with saline. They didn't get glued shut. But you talk about red. It is a two hour transport to Salt Lake City, and mama met us at the ER. And my daughter thinks I talk badly to HER. <grin>

Oh, yeah. Alcohol WAS a factor in this incident.

Art

 

[tonka97]

Just to contribute to your daughter related ulcers... <grin>

I earn my living as an electronics engineer but for entertainment, I used to work as an EMT on the weekends. This was in Wendover, Nevada- the closest geographic location where Utahans may gamble legally. We had a 2 AM callout. A nineteen year old girl, out trolling for boys decided that the smoke in the casinos had made her eyes too red and unattractive. So she decided to give them a shot of Visine. She was a little vain, and a lot near sighted. Consequently, she wasn't wearing her glasses. She mistook the super glue used to fasten fake finger nails on for her Visine.

Yup. You guessed it. She shot the super glue into her eyes. We got there in time and flushed her eyes with saline. They didn't get glued shut. But you talk about red. It is a two hour transport to Salt Lake City, and mama met us at the ER. And my daughter thinks I talk badly to HER. <grin>

Oh, yeah. Alcohol WAS a factor in this incident.

Art

...and the connection to the OP thread about a 2 year old having makeup applied by daycare workers without parental consent??

 

[tonka97]

...Tonka, as far as the impurities in make-up...I am not much of a germ-a-phobe to be honest.... I think people should be more worked up about happy meals, myself.

Catherine,
Nice try! You didn't answer the question.

Would you share lipstick, mascara, eyelid liner, face powder brushes with 15 other women? This is what was done to the 2 year old toddler without parental consent. Just give it up.....it was wrong!



BTW I totally agree with you on the food issue, but that's another thread IMO.