daniel f aleman
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Horsey women... Wranglers, high-heeled boots... and trot, trot, trot.... grrrrr...
What was the question?
What was the question?
what do your partners think?
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1_T_Submariner
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I honestly thought this was a troll thread at first....I guess there are some valid points but, I agree with Andy, I don't understand.
ArcticDiver
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I'm with Andy on this. Unless there is something attitudinal or physical that doesn't meet the eye I don't understand the original post either.
In the general area of mixed gender or spouse not present activities I think what a person does is highly variable. For example: My wife and I have His, Hers and Ours trips. But we are open about who we are going with, what we are doing, etc. This nurtures the basic trust we both have.
Daddy always told me: It Takes Two To Tango. Just Because You Feel Like Dancing Is No Sign She Will. Just Because She Feels Like Dancing Is No Sign You Need To. Experience has proven him right.
There is a lot more suspicion from people who look in the mirror and can't trust the person they see than there is actual violation of vows.
In the general area of mixed gender or spouse not present activities I think what a person does is highly variable. For example: My wife and I have His, Hers and Ours trips. But we are open about who we are going with, what we are doing, etc. This nurtures the basic trust we both have.
Daddy always told me: It Takes Two To Tango. Just Because You Feel Like Dancing Is No Sign She Will. Just Because She Feels Like Dancing Is No Sign You Need To. Experience has proven him right.
There is a lot more suspicion from people who look in the mirror and can't trust the person they see than there is actual violation of vows.
For 20 years, until my wife finally started diving, she teased me about the “scuba groupies” I always had calling me to go diving and she found it reassuring. She knew that when I went out with guys we might decide to try 200’ on air, climb the Grand Teton in one day during a snowstorm or equally crazy things, but when I went diving with the gals everything was pretty laidback and much safer (except for one crazy gal friend).
Of the half dozen female dive buddies I have now there’s only one she gets a little concerned about not because of anything between us but because I’ve had to get in a few bar fights because of this gal who has been known to drink too much, mouth off too much, and take her clothes off at inappropriate times after dives.
Of the half dozen female dive buddies I have now there’s only one she gets a little concerned about not because of anything between us but because I’ve had to get in a few bar fights because of this gal who has been known to drink too much, mouth off too much, and take her clothes off at inappropriate times after dives.
H2Andy
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Bill51:
contact info, please
ArcticDiver
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"Tequilla makes her clothes fall off?"
Darnold9999
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Could write forever on this topic - almost all of my close friends are women.
However, bottom line is that either you trust or you don't. If you don't then it is your problem, not your partners, deal with it. A third party is never going to "make" someone do something they didn't want to - never did understand that point of view. If you are in regular contact with the opposite sex you will get offers, serious or not (called flirting), you decide if you pick up on them.
The quickest way I can think of to make me stray would be to say "you can't do that - I don't trust you". Would never do it to someone, would not stand for it from anyone.
Just me, and it is sometimes hard, but the rewards are significant.
However, bottom line is that either you trust or you don't. If you don't then it is your problem, not your partners, deal with it. A third party is never going to "make" someone do something they didn't want to - never did understand that point of view. If you are in regular contact with the opposite sex you will get offers, serious or not (called flirting), you decide if you pick up on them.
The quickest way I can think of to make me stray would be to say "you can't do that - I don't trust you". Would never do it to someone, would not stand for it from anyone.
Just me, and it is sometimes hard, but the rewards are significant.
ArcticDiver
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Bill51:
After thinking about it for awhile I'm still not sure the original post wasn't a troll. In any case it still leaves me wondering just what the issue is.
But, Country Music Song analogies aside, this quote also left me confused. In my world it would be looked at as somewhat quaint, and maybe even chauvinistic, for a guy to get into a bar fight like this. After all she is the one who took her clothes off, for whatever motive and reason.
I don't mean to insult. I just want to understand some behaviour I thought was long dead and buried.
My wife only objects to one specific occasional female buddy. It's a matter of trust (she doesn't trust the other woman's buddy skills).
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