In addition to what has been said, it would probably also help to remember that the vast majority of moderation is done because of a report by another member. Sure we will occasionally be the first to see something questionable or outright against the TOS, but most are from someone hitting the report button. So we are reacting to what the membership wants, not what we feel as moderators. You might be surprised at how much discussion between the mods takes place before any action is taken.