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As mentioned, I have both male and female clubmates. And I've buddied with roughly equal numbers of male and female divers (counting number of buddies, that is. I have a few regular buddies, and if I were to do the statistics on number of dives rather than number of buddies, the statistics would be different. Because I have a lot of dives with rather few buddies). Anyway, on one of my club trips, I buddied up with one of my clubmates who happened to be a rather petite woman. She dives a twinset - not sure if it's a D8.5 or a D7x300 - and in the RIB I see her struggling a bit to get ready for the drop. Considering her size and the weight of her gear, that's not particularly surprising. So, believing I'm just another clubmate, I ask her if she needs any help getting ready. "No thanks", she says, "I prefer being able to handle my gear myself". Fine. I respect - and understand - that and stay away. Now, in hindsight, I realize that this might be taken as sexist if the woman had encountered a bit of sexist attitude in the past.
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Now, after some of the discussions here on SB, was that correct behavior on my side? And would it be understandable if a woman in my buddy's situation might interpret my question as sexist?
As mentioned, I have both male and female clubmates. And I've buddied with roughly equal numbers of male and female divers (counting number of buddies, that is. I have a few regular buddies, and if I were to do the statistics on number of dives rather than number of buddies, the statistics would be different. Because I have a lot of dives with rather few buddies). Anyway, on one of my club trips, I buddied up with one of my clubmates who happened to be a rather petite woman. She dives a twinset - not sure if it's a D8.5 or a D7x300 - and in the RIB I see her struggling a bit to get ready for the drop. Considering her size and the weight of her gear, that's not particularly surprising. So, believing I'm just another clubmate, I ask her if she needs any help getting ready. "No thanks", she says, "I prefer being able to handle my gear myself". Fine. I respect - and understand - that and stay away. Now, in hindsight, I realize that this might be taken as sexist if the woman had encountered a bit of sexist attitude in the past.
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Now, after some of the discussions here on SB, was that correct behavior on my side? And would it be understandable if a woman in my buddy's situation might interpret my question as sexist?