Alright, here is a behaviour trade that I observe consistently:
A couple decides to learn how to dive (CCR). They are both at the beginning of the learning curve. He knows just as much (or little) as she but invariable will be the one trying to teach her how to.......put on gear, explain concepts (that he only learned himself a second ago...) etc. I NEVER have seen this in reverse!
When I introduced my former partner to CCR (I have been diving CCR for a few years already), I made it a point of removing myself from his instructions. It was the instructor's job and not mine! So why are men overbearing? I might even call it arrogant! The hubby literally just learned a concept and feels compelled to put himself between his wife and the instructor and take over instruction! WOW - Best if couples not learn together.
What else does this behaviour foster? It fosters dependence and thus the woman is never completely comfortable dealing with her gear or diving without her husband. Meanwhile, the husband has no problem diving with other guys. It makes her feel less competent dealing with things as HE is always in charge. How many women fix their husband's CCR unit when there is an issue? I bet only the minority.
I can go on and on with is but .... I actually have a job and need to go to work now.
This will certainly offend some of you guys (maybe even gals) but I am saying it as I, as a woman, see it. As a female tech diver, I made it a point a long time ago that "if I cant carry my gear, I don't dive it" - that was on doubles. Now it goes, "unless I can manage my gear, I won't dive it".
I am independent and chances are that I can assist a man with his gear better than some. We women need to change our attitudes and insist to do things ourselves so that we are independent and actually become better dive buddies to our male dive buddies. We need to be allowed to learn at our pace and we need to struggle in order to learn - just like men do. It is very gallant of men to offer assistance, but by doing so, we are deprived of the opportunity to learn and master a skill.
From my PERSONAL observation, women appear always a little less comfortable and confident with their gear and rely on their male partner a lot. There are exceptions ( I am one).