As others have pointed out, defining "sexism" is not an easy task. Now I think it is obvious that most of the planet follows a patriarchal system so to wonder IF males are generally considered above females is an exercise in futility. Yes things are changing, there has been progress, but there is a long way to go. Of course there's always exceptions, but I am not exceptional, just a garden variety bitter old fart that never follow the "how to become a lady" program.
As an old woman scares me to see that things I thought were over when I was in my early 20s are coming back, and need to be fight for again.
But as mentioned above also, sexism is part of life as a whole, the part that spills into diving is what we are covering in this thread right?
I don't think there's a lot of "in your face" sexism in the recreational side of diving, female money can be just as green as any, so it is more of a subtle ways that spills over , I wonder if a woman can waltz in the tech side or requires her to elbow her way in.
I see when dive gear is advertised there's sexism like in any advertising. Yes both genders in ads are young and attractive; but the males are muscular and "rogued" while the females tend to be petite with big tits; unless the advert is specifically for wet suits, all female models wear sexy bikinis. I'm not arguing the effectiveness of the ads, just describing what sells, male - big & powerful female - small & the more flesh the better.
Movies? if there's diving involved, most of the time the male will have a full suit and the female is diving in swimsuit.... which by the way is a contradiction to have the female requiring less thermal protection, but I know logic is not invited to that party.
A sample of what I have experienced personally in the last few decades that I doubt would have happened if I was a man.
Walked into a dive shop to borrow or pay for the use of an Allen tool, to remove the dummy plug on a low pressure port of my 1st stage to add a hose. The Neanderthal behind the counter (my apologies to all the Neanderthals) told me :
"Sugar, you can't just add hoses to that, you need to buy one that comes with hoses already"
I ripped my 1st stage of his hands and walked away from the store. I've been told this guy was just trying to sell and would've said the same to a man... I have a hard time believing that.
More than once I've been with a male friend or coworker and walk into a dive shop, I go to the counter to buy something and they salesperson ignores while offers assistance to the male with me, even if he is obviously just looking. If what I need can wait, I walk away, either way I make a point to skip that shop in the future. Again I've been told that dive shop attendants just want to sell and may not be aware of the non-verbal queues of a buyer vs. a looker, hmmmmm maybe, either way I rather patronize the attendants that are a little brighter.
While my diving was exclusively from day charters, I developed a system. All the stuff was always in my car stored the same way. All gear in a backpack on top over the 2 steel tanks. Backpack on, then a tank on each hand and everything was balanced perfect for me to walk to any boat. So many times I would be unloading my car or walking to the boat, next to other divers going to the same boat, and many times I would get several offers to help, my replies were always the same "no thanks".
Offers to help covered the whole spectrum from the no kidding "do you need a hand?" to the obnoxiously condescending "let me take care of that for you darling" while actually trying to get the tanks off my hands.
Once again I get the BS of, this is the south they were raised to be respectful. That's cool I was raised to be treated like a capable human being, if you want to, go ahead open the door for me but STFU with the condescending attitude.
Sexism, racism and who-knows-how-many-other '-isms' are quite real, and hinder many people, yes. But there are also many people who view themselves as victims of prejudice when actually, it's not your race, gender, etc...that we take issue with. It's you and your bad ideas.
I agree with that statement, but I read somewhere, that equality will be obvious when a mediocre person from that "ism" (a mediocre women in this case) gets to be a normal occurrence in certain field. Think about it, when it comes to be the exception one has to be twice as good in order to "make" it. There's a lot of mediocre male commercial divers, the few women in that field have to keep proving themselves over and over. And if one fails is a fail for ALL women, not the same for men, if one fails, HE didn't cut it.
I think it takes two to be sexist. First, you have to have the man with the attitude, and then you have to have the woman with the chip on her shoulder. I have never carried that chip, and it takes fairly egregious behavior to register as sexist to me. Even then, I mostly find it amusing. I'll tell a couple of stories:
Sometimes is not just ONE man and that chip gets pounded in your shoulder so deep is not easy to pretend is not there.
We all have a couple of stories (unfortunately)
In my teens and early 20's I knew it all, so after high school instead of going to college I married a person my parents didn't like. After 2 kids it was time to get a job. Looking at my lack of qualifications I thought I could make a career of Land Surveying. There was plenty of work for the starting position on a crew, requirements at the time were easy: reading -writing-and lifting 40 or 50 pounds. I figure with my math abilities I could climb up the ladder easily (2 to 3 positions depending on the crew), become crew chief in a couple of years. Right... that's what I thought, I literally got the up and down look from the first 3 companies I try to apply. One of them didn't even give me the application to fill. Finally I got hired but only because they were desperately to get a warm body. WTF I know today that a trained monkey can fill that position but a woman won't qualify? I did climbed up to crew chief, but not until proving that I was twice as productive as any of the crew chiefs they had, all the while making sure I don't disrupt the "male atmosphere", never mind the BS every time I get a new assistant in the crew that needs to "get used to" work for a female.
After seeing that every where I went as a land surveyor resulted in removal of beautiful areas to be covered by concrete, asphalt or a combination of both, I started with bridges and culverts. Managed to become a bridge inspector, no destruction there, this structures are actually quite amazing, but then again females are not welcome. I don't know how few women are in the medical field, I never met another female bridge inspector, I knew of their existence in other states but I was the proverbial token. Never mind going for training, in-land inspection is in the pussy-section of commercial diving you'd think I could fit in for once.... oh no. It was bad enough to have THE GUYS from the oil rigs look down to commercial divers that work in-land, if they start accepting women that would be the end.
I was lucky to survive all my training, and find one or two males in positions of power that care more about results and profits than the gender of the grunt doing the work.
When the pounding of the chip on my shoulder got old, I figured if I become an Engineer the BS about being a woman at work will end.... I guess I'm funny that way.
I became an electrical engineer, the Navy hired me even before completing the degree. Now I run UUV's for them and still today I encounter gender BS.
so yes I guess my shoulders are pretty well covered with many chips, but I doubt it is just perceived, still today my mother regrets I will retire without ever doing a "woman's job" whatever that means.