DandyDon:
If you didnt' have almost 3000 posts on this board, I would have guessed your post was a troll
Anyway, putting the whole be-a-better-buddy/pony-is-a-crutch debate aside for a moment (which has some valid points), I can at least share my thought process when I purchased my pony.
Like you I decided to get a pony after observing some newbie divers run out of air during a safety stop and have to share air.
The buddies that I'm most comfortable diving with can't/won't dive as much as I like to dive, so sometimes on charter boats and shore dives I have to go begging for a buddy. Sometimes I have to go down as a 3-some with two complete strangers, and you don't always get the opportunity to cover ALL the possible scenarios with these strangers before hand.
My decision process was fairly simple (if not a little bit naive). All my diving is recreational (mostly cold water), no overhead, and so far I haven't done any wreck diving. I'm diving with PST E7-100 singles. Rodales had a bail-out bottle comparison earlier this year, and they tested that they could do an "emergency" ascent from 130 feet with a 6 cu. ft. bottle, and still have a couple of breaths leftover. So I doubled that and got a 13 cu. ft. bottle, along with a main-tank mounted quick-release. I added a little pop-up SPG to the ponys 1st stage reg.
I'm working on a level-1 wreck diving specialty now, so I will probably upgrade to at least a 19 cu ft. The 19 cu ft is the same diameter as the 13, so I should be able to use my existing quick-release.
When I'm diving with strangers, I still try to be the best buddy I know how to be, but it gives me a lot more confidence to know that I have a tertiary backup if I need it.