ewaiea
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My wife recently returned from a trip to Oregon. Out of the blue she is unhappy with me as a husband and step father. We have sought counseling in the past due to marital indifferences regarding child raising - she has a daughter, I have a vasectomy - aka this is my only parenting experience. It turns out I was suffering from depression and that was a major contributor to the hardships we were experiencing.
After counseling things really came full circle and I thought the worst days were behind us - now out of the blue she's not sure what she wants. She feels I'm inadequate in various areas of parenting, being a husband, etc. I can only offer her my full support but since she has talked to the counselor once and sprang this on me, and refuses to go to future sessions it sounds to me like her mind is made up.
She's been put through this when we went through counseling but I insisted on seeking professional help to save our marriage. She has only seen the counselor once since she returned (a few days ago) and I thought it was for wishing she was back in the Pacific Northwest (which is where I know she is most happy)....turns out she's having full out marriage doubts. I don't get it, maybe deep down I deserve this since I was the one who had second thoughts earlier in our marriage - perhaps I am not worthy of this marriage.
Since she is contemplating leaving - how long should I give her to make her mind up. I want to be a good husband - but I also don't want to take this laying down either.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
After counseling things really came full circle and I thought the worst days were behind us - now out of the blue she's not sure what she wants. She feels I'm inadequate in various areas of parenting, being a husband, etc. I can only offer her my full support but since she has talked to the counselor once and sprang this on me, and refuses to go to future sessions it sounds to me like her mind is made up.
She's been put through this when we went through counseling but I insisted on seeking professional help to save our marriage. She has only seen the counselor once since she returned (a few days ago) and I thought it was for wishing she was back in the Pacific Northwest (which is where I know she is most happy)....turns out she's having full out marriage doubts. I don't get it, maybe deep down I deserve this since I was the one who had second thoughts earlier in our marriage - perhaps I am not worthy of this marriage.
Since she is contemplating leaving - how long should I give her to make her mind up. I want to be a good husband - but I also don't want to take this laying down either.
Any advice would be much appreciated.