One other thing to consider:
It’s obvious you’re worried about the additional lead you add pushing her over to an “unbalanced” configuration. What I don’t understand is: why isn’t that lead you plan on adding ditchable? I mean, if you were adding lead bolted to your back plate, or selecting unusually heavy scuba tanks (like stupid spun tanks) to add that ballast, yeah, you would have a problem. But you’re not: you’re adding it in additional lead weights.
Why not simply buy a good quality weight harness and call it a day?
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40 pounds of lead. All ditchable.
I swear I’m not going to go on my usual “make sure you actually need all that lead“ rant. And as picky as you’re being about this entire process, I assume you are being equally picky on the process of figuring out exactly how much weight you/she needs. But if by chance you are not, I just want to throw that out there: so, so many divers are diving with way, way more lead than they actually need. Doing a proper weight check with empty tanks at the surface is essential. If you can just barely sink in that configuration, you have enough lead. And make sure you do it at the end of a dive where you have moved your body around extensively, up and down through the water column. That gives you a chance to get all of the air squeezed out of your suit. If you do it at the beginning, your suit will have way too much air in it and you’ll never sink. Of course, that’s why many divers think they need more lead: they can’t sink in the beginning. But that’s a problem of getting the air out of their suit, not adding more lead. (OK, I’m stopping now: I promised this wouldn’t be a rant.
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Anyway, consider a good weight harness. It will probably solve all of your worries.