'm not worried about you guys knowing or not. I got home from work (after a 16 hour night shift on a Friday night) and it's pretty much decided - she wants out.
I could fight for this but I think there is more to it - maybe on her trip she met someone who directly or indirectly brought her to this mind set. I guess moving to the Pacific Northwest is more important than our marriage and now she's putting it on me. I don't care how or why she thinks this all of a sudden but I'll let her take her daughter and leave the state.
Seems insensitive but her mind is made up and therefore mine has to be as well. I told her I would pay for her plane ticket (since it's actually already booked on my credit card for another trip - we can just credit the ticket to her final destination). I told her that's the severence - there would be no alimony since she is leaving me.
She wants to stay under the same roof while she studies for her massage therepy license for Oregon and Washington - I told her I'd give her 3 months - by end of Christmas I will move out and divorce papers will be served. She's not telling me everything but I think I can piece the puzzle together.
I feel so hurt and alone - but I must move on with my life. I loved this woman and would lay down in front of a train for her and her daughter and she'd rather move up north, work two jobs, and maybe even go on public assistance than wait until we can move up there as a family! See what I mean? It doesn't add up - we have a comfortable, stable, loving home.
I won't consider marriage for at least 15 years - and NEVER will I ever get involved with someone with kids - it's just not worth it. I've seen both sides and I'll take childless by choice every day of the week and twice on Sunday. I don't care who disagrees with me - I now know what I want out of life and I have a chance to seize it at the cost of a few months of hard patience.
Ladies and Gentlemen, if you fall out of love at the drop of a hat - at least have the guts to stand up and tell your spouse the full story....
Oh and the vasectomy - that was all me. I just thought since I loved her I could do the step parent thing, I was told I was good at it and people thought her daughter was my real daughter too. We had alot in common - but I don't regret getting the snip. I would never want to be fertile again - just opens you up to too much financial and personal ruin. I know why those of you who have kids do it - I understand - but it's just not for me. I want to make money, travel, and maybe find someone who wants the same out of life. At least I'm secure in what I want and not afraid to admit it.
Everything is Ok then she go's on vacation without you then wanted a divorce when she came back?. Then refuses counseling. I think your gut feeling is correct and giving her 3 months is more than generous, think of yourself and get working on enjoying your new life.
