Divorce

[Dryglove]

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With a rough childhood and all..... I believe it makes me appreciate things a lot better than taking everyday life for granted.

When the road to marriage is at my footsteps, I will go into it with eyes open wide. :wacko:

And BTW, I am doing well!

Thats cool.At least you have a good outlook on life unlike so many people i run across that use their chilhoods as a reason to commit crimes.I also had a pretty rough childhood with the abusive alcoholic father and all.Like you, it made me appreciate things better and i vowed never to treat my kids like i was treated.

 

[TCDiver1]

Many divorces i've seen, seem to be the result of the "i'll fix her/him" mentality.

He drinks now but when we're married i'll get him to stop .... or...
She really spends to much, once we have a house and kids she will realise she has to budget better, etc, etc.

Unrealistic expectations of marriage fixing existing problems. Single biggest reason from what i've seen.

 

[chickdiver]

I got divorced the first time because we had nothing in common.

The second was a little bit trickier. My ex and I were best friends and did everything together, until I had to have surgery. He just wasn't there for me at all, and I found out that I was one of the least important things in his life. He liked having a "kick ass tech diver" (his quote, not mine) who was able to keep up with the boys for a wife, when I was no longer able to do that (no matter how temporarily) he was no longer interested.

So, that's my story.....

 

[TCDiver1]

chickdiver once bubbled...

The second was a little bit trickier. He liked having a "kick ass tech diver" (his quote, not mine) who was able to keep up with the boys for a wife, when I was no longer able to do that (no matter how temporarily) he was no longer interested.

Sounds like your 2nd is swimming in the "shallow" end of the pool.

Sorry to hear you split but your probably much better off without him.

 

[chickdiver]

Oh, trust me, 18 months later I am in FAR better hsape all around than I was when I was married to that jerk.

 

[jepuskar]

I am not going anywhere in particular with this thread.....I just brought up the D word in another thread and then got raped. I think it is a subject worth discussing about as the mentality with people my age is...you can always get divorced.

My parents have been married for about 33 years now and Carrie's parents for quite awhile also, it is just not common anymore to have a long marriage.

 

[O-ring]

jepuskar once bubbled...
I am not going anywhere in particular with this thread.....I just brought up the D word in another thread and then got raped. I think it is a subject worth discussing about as the mentality with people my age is...you can always get divorced.

My parents have been married for about 33 years now and Carrie's parents for quite awhile also, it is just not common anymore to have a long marriage.

I think it was the context you brought it up in that made you get dragged over the coals...nobody wants to hear about divorce in an engagement thread .

I agree with you...divorce is the easy way out and too many people look at it as an option these days. I am sooooo doing a prenup...

 

[chickdiver]

why bother? In my (admittedly jaded) opinion, why not just live together? What real difference does a peice of paper make (unless you are religious)? I was way happier when my ex and I were living together, things started going downhill the day we got married.

 

[GeekDiver]

I got divorced because my ex was a loser

After her having an affair with 3 guys and one woman, spending all my money (and then some) sold 2 cars (one was my 78 T/A hotrod), evicted from our house and negelecting my kids while I was off serving my country in Korea for 13 mo I had enough. I couldn't get one fast enough cause when I got back she took off abandon my kids at her mothers house and we couldn't find her until 9 mo later. She filed because she got preg w/her live-in boy friend (and his parents) and had to explain that she couldn't get married because she was already. She was asking for, and get this full cust of the kids, spouse support and child support.

In case your wondering I won the divorce and full custody of the kids

Geek

 

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GeekDiver once bubbled...
In case your wondering I won the divorce and full custody of the kids
Geek

I was relieved to read that last line. Good for you! I don't understand how some people don't take marriage serious, let alone neglect their child/children. It's quite upsetting.

My Sister's (idiot) left right after she gave birth to his Daughter. They were married for 4 years prior, but once their Daughter was born (2 months after to be exact) he realized he didn't want to be a Husband, let alone a Father and counceling was out of the question, so he up & left. I will NEVER understand how anyone can turn their back on their family.