I’ll try to articulate things a bit better. With political correctness, you’ve got at least 2 views on an issue, at least one socially acceptable (e.g.: superficially agreed with, not apt to be challenged when stated), at least one not (e.g.: likely to trigger an argument when stated publicly) - even though the latter may be what many (even most) people ‘vote for with their feet,’ so to speak.
In mainstream scuba training at the OW level, buddy diving is heavily endorsed. Okay. Not a bad thing. Out in the world post-certification, the way it is actually practiced is much different. Observation on dive op. recreational trips made clear to me group diving without a specifically assigned buddy is common and preferable to many divers. Some people prefer strict conservative buddy pair diving, many people follow a far looser interpretation, many people just ‘dive with the group’ and some dive solo.
None of these approaches are necessarily ‘wrong.’ It’s also politically correct to claim ‘safety first,’ but it’s not ‘safety only’ or we wouldn’t dive. There is some level of risk that’s acceptable. No one seems to have a hard number for that, and variance in practices shows we don’t all agree. People drive down the highway without a ‘co-pilot’ in a drivers’ ed. style vehicle that would let the ‘buddy’ take over if we had an abrupt medical event zipping down an interstate at 70 mph.
This becomes a big issue when you speak of what people should not ‘be permitted’ to do.
Cozumel was mentioned and a great example. In Cozumel, there are 2 approaches to dealing with the first diver who runs low on gas; either the whole group goes up (e.g.: I’m told Aldora does this), or the guide can send up an SMB and the diver (alone or buddy pair) can ascend (some other op.s). Aldora preferred its approach on safety grounds. A number of divers strongly prefer the latter approach.
Just how much hand-holding/supervision people need/want is not a universal standard for people who aren’t taking a class. Leaving a diver at a safety stop depth by the boat is not reasonably expected to be higher risk than a number of other things divers do. How would the odds of death compare to some of the more daring technical dives?
There may well be 'standards' to some extent (though regional practices vary a lot; a dive boat out of California may do less hand-holding than one in the Caribbean), but I don't think those standards are necessarily what they're often claimed to be.