Ya, scootering side by side while sharing gas is charlie-foxtrottery. You've got so speed match scooters, turning (ie dodging cave structures) must be timed precisely or you're going to lose it, the touch contact will be broken as soon as someone needs to add gas to their DS or wing (oral or by the inflator). Getting into a regular towing position lets one person do the driving. Plus, it puts your other scooter out of the way, so it can't pick up rocks/line or otherwise break (not as easily, I should say).
While most anything will work in shallow caves, things change when deeper. 1000psi in ginnie does not equal 1000psi in Eagles Nest. An entire stage will last a staggering 17 minutes at 280ft (.5 sac rate), and if you think you have a .5 when things are REALLY going wrong, you don't. You simply don't have the time to putz around.
For the sake of discussion, we are not all comparing apples to apples. A dive to mainland at ginnie, which would use 1 or 2 stages and your backgas to get to the end of it is WAY different than a double stage dive in a low flow, deeper cave.
Also, a distinction needs to be made between Out of gas (you have NO gas) and can't access gas. Those are two different things. Yes, the initial management is to donate whats in your mouth and get that dive gas, but after that, things change. Double roll off? Fixable. Closed isolator? Fixable. Switched to a dead reg? Fixable. A diver truly being out of gas is a rare event, esp with the isolation manifold.
However, diving thirds in stages removes flexibility. If you're on a 3 stage dive, and your buddy truly loses all of his backgas, by the time you're near the entrance, you've got 2 stages with 1000psi each, and another with somewhere around that. Slow. Slow. Slow.
Similarly, if you are on the same dive diving 1/2+200, and your bud loses all his backgas, having them exit on the stages results in multiple OOG (really OUT) unless they are super zen with that stellar sac rate they had on the way in. Not realistic.
Or... you put them on the long hose and tow out. Your double 104s have enough gas to cover 7-8 stages. Wow. (288cuft/32.5cuft used per stage = 8.somethin). Your buddy wont run out. You manage the stages, jettisoning them as you use them, and switching to your backup if the stage empties. This can all be done one handed while on the trigger.
Change gears now. We're doing that mainland dive, and my buddy suffers a rare double burst disk failure and loses all the BG at 4000ft in, and now we're sharing out. Diving thirds on stages and thirds in your back gets you almost to the stage cache' at 3000. Fail. Your sac rate and swim rate simply won't be the same. But... if we reserve 100psi per stage as I suggested earlier, you get to the stage cache with a few hundred psi reserve. Even if your sac increases, you'll make it. Awesome. You get on your stage and high-tail it out, leaving the empty stages as you use them (1 or 2, which ever).
Thank GOD total losses of backgas don't happen. The isolation manifold covers you and always saves half (or close to it) of your gas, no matter what. A freeflowing reg empties an al80 in something like 90 seconds at depth (something like that, I don't have the article in front of me). Thats no joke. Being able to shut that down and still access the gas in the tank is a huge plus. No futzing around with swapping regs and such, just the twist of the wrist.