As this whole sad thing sorted out, there were 8 people in the water. 6 made it to the surface with minor injuries and two were trapped below the water line. It as I understand it took some minutes for other vessels to respond. It appears efforts were made to account for where everyone was and that the captain free dived to attempt rescue the two who were under the surface. He did in fact bring them to the surface. I do not know if the instructor also made efforts to dive down or if he/she remained on the surface tending to the other wounded and in peril members of that ill fated trip.
I am not going to fault crew members or passenger for being hysterical and out of control that someone just died on their boat. We all respond differently to emergencies and if we have also suffered even a minor injury, it can interfere with our ability to respond.
It appears from all I have read that the problem was with the boat in the first place and that when it sunk all was done that was possible by the crew, passengers and responding boats to turn a bad situation around. The best solution would of course be for all boats to be in tip top condition with passive permanent flotation. I love the video of the Boston Whaler that is cut in half with a chain saw and still floats. We had an incident here in a local lake in which a sail boat flipped with a father and his 4 year old son. The child had on a PFD, but got tangled in the line and the boat went down in about 160' of water. I am becoming more and more a fan of boats with total positive reserve flotation even in event of a severe hull breach or flip of the vessel.
Anyway, lots of reasons to beat up the operation for taking the boat out in the first place. The captain, crew and owners can and will be held to account for that, but I think we need to give some small measure of credit to the captain for diving down without gear in 30' of water to attempt a rescue at least twice and that he successfully brought them to the surface. He did risk his own life to do that. I would argue that he/ the whole boat should never have been in that situation to start with, but once there, he made an effort to save his passengers.
Pat, you are still reading, I have a journal I would like to send to you if you want it. It is called, "Mom Tell Me Your Story, a guided journal" It is meant to be filled out by a mom for her children. It has all sorts of questions about music, family, memories and so forth for the mom to share what she thinks. Perhaps it is something you could do with Aimee's family and fill out together for your little girl.
A few of the questions are:
What brought you and dad together?
What interests do you and dad share?
Describe sacrifices you have made for your marraige
How did you come up with my name?
How as being married to dad enriched your life?
Tell me about a troubling time in your life and how you got through?
What is one of your favorite memories as a child?
What is a funny story that has happened to you and dad since you got married?
and so on....