Good Dqy All, I have acquired 3 r109 regulators and 1 G250. I have rebuilt 2 of the 109s and the G250. The first 109 breathed easily and cracked around .8. The second 109 and the 250 were hard breathers. I set them up all the same. I adjust the oriface till it just leaks slightly and then turn in the adjustment screw to stop the leak. I learned this off a VDH video. The 109s both have the duropoppet conversion. The easy breathing one has a new diaphragm and what ever the hell the runner thing that holds the shiny s is called. When using the tuning method above the harder breathing 109 and 250 take a lot of adjustment knob to quit leaking. Does the 250 need a new crown? Do the both need new springs? BTW. I am using the same 1st stage to test all three regs.
Are you adjusting the orifice while the reg is pressurized? If so, I would suggest that you stop and only turn the adjusting screw with the purge depressed. If you're already doing that, great.
The duro poppet is the unbalanced poppet, so your 109s are unbalanced with the heavy spring, correct? Do they have original levers, and if so, are the levers on the 2 109s identical. There are several versions of those levers and they all seem to react differently with the newer poppets. I would confirm that the levers are working well with the poppet and that the lever height is appropriate for the diaphragm. I guess the way to do this is to adjust it so there are no leaks without the diaphragm in place, then install it and see if it starts to leak. If so, and you need to tighten the orifice, which drops the lever, then you are adding to the cracking pressure unnecessarily. The fix is usually a new lever. I've experienced this many times with a 109 converting to the s-wing poppet, but never with a G250, although it certainly is possible, especially on an older G250 that originally had the older style fixed-seat poppet.
Have you replaced the lighter spring on the G250? That's a frequent cause for inconsistent tuning.
I've never seen any improvement by replacing a diaphragm, but it's certainly possible. If I were in your shoes, I'd first have a look at the lever height as I mentioned before, once that's worked out try switching springs and diaphragms, even the orifices, eventually you'll isolate the problem.