I went into the shop and told him I thought about what he said and discussed it with my family and friends and want to dive with my bottle and I wanted to know more of his concerns.
Good for you. You have offered him a very reasonable, and positive, opportunity to explain his specific concerns.
He he told me it's a tec skill and that he would have to contact PADI and find out what training I needed. He said because his instructors were not Tec that it wouldn't be good for me to dive with it if there's problems.
Earlier in the thread, several of us described him as an 'idiot'. In the clearer light of the next day, I agree that we were probably a bit harsh, as NetDoc suggested. He is obviously ignorant, as Pete suggested. But, based on his more recent response, I still harbor the notion that he is just an idiot. And, his response to your follow-up concerns simply reinforces that notion. It is one thing to express string opinions. It is another, altogether, to persist in voicing abrupt, inflexible, non-negotiable opinions, without making any attempt to explain those positions, and discuss the details, PARTICULARLY when speaking to a future dive professional.
The bottle created it's own complexities and can cause problems without training. Such as what if I lost my primary regulator what would I do and I said use my alternate air source off my BCD if I had a problem getting my primary reg (or the pony reg but I didn't want to sound like a smart ass).
Yes, a bottle CAN create it's own set of issues. But, your response was very appropriate.
Well, no one in our shop, students or instructors wear one.
And, that part concerns me. Why not? If an Instructor is not competent, or currently proficient, in handling a pony bottle, I frankly don't want that person teaching ANYONE, much less Divemaster candidates. An Instructor MUST be better than the students. I can only imagine what would have happened if you had shown up in a backplate / wing, with a long primary hose and a short hose bungeed necklace on your alternate, as your regulator configuration.
I told him that's their choice that this was for my safety not theirs. Told me adding gear can cause problems and explained how a guy go tangled up in his reel.
It IS their choice. Yours is different. And, reel entanglement is a real issue. I will say, without fear of informed contradiction, that deploying a properly set-up pony is far less likely to cause an equipment issue than a reel deployment. Both do require practice. NEITHER is exclusively a 'tec' skill, by any means.
I explained that in my open water, rescue diver, deep, Divemaster books all talk about having a pony bottle so it's not Tec. He argued the point in which my non diving husband got upset and pointed at my bottle and said that's in the book, it's not a stage bottle but for emergencies. The owner said you can wear it I don't care and walked away.
At this point, I will reiterate my previous comment - run away, VERY fast.
I'm not going diving this weekend that is clear
Good for you. A wise decision.
and now we are trying to figure out if we can eat all the classes and pay him for all I've taken so far and quit the program. Deal with VA and such. I'm beyond angry and my husband is livid. Even my 19 year old is saying this is messed up.
I think you can deal with the VA. VA money should not be used to support this level of performance in SCUBA instruction.
You don't mention WHERE in the SE USA you are located. There are quite a few facilities that offer dive training through the GI bill. You may be able to transfer credit, although you may have to use up some extra 'months' of credit. I would love to know what center is involved, but won't ask, because I don't want you put on the spot.