May We Have a Singles Forum, Please

[DrownedRat]

sapphire once bubbled...
Although I have no idea where the Board is in making up their minds about a Single Divers Forum, it seems warranted given the reasons. One thread is too hard to search through for different topics. It would be nice to talk about issues such as ways of dealing with singles supplements on liveaboards, being "buddied" up with strangers when on a trip, ways to meet other single divers, etc. without having to wade through one long thread. And if some people don't like it, they don't have to read it...

peace,

sapphire

Good points.. All valid reasons. Certainly stated far better than any reason against it so far.

 

[Big-t-2538]

DrownedRat once bubbled...


Good points.. All valid reasons. Certainly stated far better than any reason against it so far.

I feel that a forum, open to the public, will turn the board into the scuba internet dating site....which is fine if that is within the scope of the board's goals. I don't own the board, I just try to play by the rules.

I come here (mostly) to talk about diving...

I visit the NDR forum knowing that there will be goofy stuff in there, I don't mind a dumb thread here or there, but I think the potential for explosion or offending people will sky-rocket if there is a dedicated singles forum with global access.

The idea of a singles forum that you have to request access to IMO is the solution to this problem.

Anyway...back to realding the enlightening posts of Karl_in_Calif

 

[DrownedRat]

I'll respect your outlook, however I don't agree that a singles forum could take over an entire board. I mean the NDR hasen't had a negative impact on the rest of the board so how would a singles one be any different? I guess it's one of those "we won't know till it happens" things. Hell, I just came across this thread... I'm not even single lol. However I'm lucky enough to have a woonderful lady who would like to start diving I guess with this sport being so dependent on having a buddy, the appeal of including your SO is obvious. Or finding a fellow diver who my become an SO.. Scuba Board can offer a wonderful service in this respect. Just for the above mentioned reason, I see a singles forum being of great value. Besides we are all adults (for the most part) and should all be able to moderate our behaviour as such. I think anyone serious about a singles forum would conduct themselves in an appropriate manner and if not then they would be delt with like any other abusive person on another forum/thread.
Cheers

P.s not to harp on the issue but having the moderatiors/site owners go though the process of authenticating interested parties is silly. If you don't want to participate in a singles forum just don't go in there You're an adult, exercise your rights and don't read the forum but don't try and infringe on other people.

Big-t-2538 once bubbled...
I feel that a forum, open to the public, will turn the board into the scuba internet dating site....which is fine if that is within the scope of the board's goals. I don't own the board, I just try to play by the rules.

I come here (mostly) to talk about diving...

I visit the NDR forum knowing that there will be goofy stuff in there, I don't mind a dumb thread here or there, but I think the potential for explosion or offending people will sky-rocket if there is a dedicated singles forum with global access.

The idea of a singles forum that you have to request access to IMO is the solution to this problem.

Anyway...back to realding the enlightening posts of Karl_in_Calif

 

[Big-t-2538]

DrownedRat once bubbled...

P.s not to harp on the issue but having the moderatiors/site owners go though the process of authenticating interested parties is silly. If you don't want to participate in a singles forum just don't go in there You're an adult, exercise your rights and don't read the forum but don't try and infringe on other people.

I disagree for a number of reasons. 1 - it would make the forum a little more restrictive, and pretty much guarantee that only serious, interested, and dedicated people are posting in there. 2 - Granted it would be a bit more work to authorize people, but you only have to do it once, and they already do this for the business of diving area and probably the moderator area too 3 - it would keep anyone who is totally against it from having to sift through all sorts of new posts in the singles forum when they hit the "view new posts" button.

 

[Walter]

When I click on the "view new posts" button, I usually get far more posts in which I have no interest than those I care to read. One forum will not change that aspect of the board. Should we register for each of the NDI forums? Because I have no desire to discuss lift bags, should you be required to register separately for that forum? A singles forum will serve many more people and have more interest than many of the forums we currently have.

Are you afraid people might use such a forum to find dates? Do you think they don't already use the forums in place for the same purpose? This board is about bringing divers together, there's nothing wrong with taking that concept one step farther and helping sincere people find one another.

 

[diverbrian]

I would love to see a singles forum. As some of the ladies from this board would attest to, I recently attended a singles dive although I am now seeing someone.

It was great not being shoved into the corner when the day was done as I wasn't the member of a "couples" group. This is but one of several issues for me when I travel alone. I anticipate these issues to continue for a while as the SO is currently a non-diver and not wealthy enough to go with me on dive trips for the heck of it.

However, I feel that many of these issues are discussed in individual threads as well. As to the people like Big-T:

I see your points. However, if you see activity on a thread labeled for singles, you are likely to ignore it if you are not interested, correct? Wouldn't you rather see it there than all over SB?

 

[Big-t-2538]

Walter once bubbled...
This board is about bringing divers together, there's nothing wrong with taking that concept one step farther and helping sincere people find one another.

I agree, but you use a keyword there sincere...I am all for it in that respect...OTOH, call it a gut feeling or whatever, I just think such a forum widely opens the opportunity for people to be childish and junvenile when it comes to internet dating....you have no face, just a screen name...

 

[DrownedRat]

Big-t-2538 once bubbled...
I disagree for a number of reasons. 1 - it would make the forum a little more restrictive, and pretty much guarantee that only serious, interested, and dedicated people are posting in there. 2 - Granted it would be a bit more work to authorize people, but you only have to do it once, and they already do this for the business of diving area and probably the moderator area too 3 - it would keep anyone who is totally against it from having to sift through all sorts of new posts in the singles forum when they hit the "view new posts" button.

I guess I just can't understand why anyone would be "totally"against it. It's not like it's a forum on "how to bounce your baby just right to get the most air" or something equally reprehensible. I think helping people who're looking for love in all the wrong places to find perhaps the right place (being fellow divers) is a noble goal worth persuing.

 

[Gibbon]

Here's a little excerpt from a post I made in the women's vies forum about too much info.

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The unfortunate fact is that you really can't know someone until you can actually sit and talk with them (face to face), and until you know someone it's not safe to give out too much info (Thus leading to the face to face encounter).
As for "What's too much?", I would say: no last name. No phone #'s. No personalized E-mail (Yahoo/hotmail I would say is fine). Profession would be fine (IMO) but not any company name.

The last name and/or phone # would be the BIGGEST no no IMO. These are what makes it the easiest for someone to track.

This is all my opinion of course, but there it is.
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I don't know if this forum will happen or not, but I see more problems with it as with meeting people at bars/pubs.

I may be mistaken, it's happened before, and it'll happen again.

 

[DrownedRat]

Big-t-2538 once bubbled...
I agree, but you use a keyword there sincere...I am all for it in that respect...OTOH, call it a gut feeling or whatever, I just think such a forum widely opens the opportunity for people to be childish and junvenile when it comes to internet dating....you have no face, just a screen name...

If people do, then the'll be delt with accordingly (just like any other thread)... I mean you're actually saying people may act childish and juvenile???? ROTFLMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have you read one of the million DIR threads???????????? Can you tell me with a straight face that it could get worse than one of those??? (btw I'm in no way hacking on DIR or Non-DIR, it was just an example I thought many of you would be familiar with).