Thanks for all the responses! I'm glad this thread is helping some other newbies out and I'm not the only one who is a bit overwhelmed by the whole thing. My husband and I of course signed up for our OW cert because diving seemed (and is!) awesome and fun and exciting, but then you get into it and for some of us, it's like ... there is a whooooole lot more to this than I originally thought and it's making me anxious as hell. I'm an impatient person and I have never stopped and caught my breath after carrying all of our gear down to the site, suiting up, etc. - it has just been a hurried "let's go, let's go, I'm so annoyed to be standing here in the 100+ degree heat in Florida in this tight wetsuit!" :biggrin: I think catching my breath and re-grouping, talking through the dive, understanding where we'll be going and what we'll be doing when we go under will definitely help (all done before wiggling into the wetsuit, obviously). Most of my anxiety is wrapped up in not understanding where we're going, how long we'll be at a certain depth, if we're going to do the strict "side by side / 3 second" rule in regards to the buddy system or if this is an easy enough dive that I don't need to panic if he drifts away to take pictures while I look at this thing over here, etc. In the past we haven't talked through any of that because we're just so excited to get in and explore, but on each dive we've done (all two of them - hah!), it has made me pretty anxious to not know these things while we're down there. What can I say, I'm a planner. I don't even like surprises above water, so surprises underwater are especially unwelcomed lol.
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Beachbummer
I think you've got the bit about planning.
The little section above about being hot and just getting on with it. As I and others have said, take a break between the carrying and putting the kit together before you get in. i.e. you want to start the dive as relaxed as you can.
Whilst I am based in the UK, I do often dive in hot climates like the Red Sea and Malta. One trick my girlfriend has learnt when diving in Malta during August, when its really hot. Is she will often go for a quick dip to cool down. This might be after arrival at the site, after putting the kit together, or moving equipment to the waters edge.
She likes to be cool and relaxed before she starts to kit up, she knows she'll get hot during the kitting up and entry phase so she starts off cool.
One other thought. If you are concerned with separation, much as I don't like them, you could try using a buddy line. Reasonably common in the UK where the visibility can be down to a foot or two. Its a line of 1-2m (3-6ft) in length with a carabiner (clip) at each end. You clip to each of the divers, then they can't separate. HOWEVER, you should each have a knife so that you can cut it free if you get it tangled. The other alternate is to use a reel, then at least you can reel in the slack.
It does teach you discipline about staying in the same relative position with regards to your buddy.
If you start a dive hot and stressed it is seldom an enjoyable experience, take the time to relax before you enter or descend. As others have said if you are shore diving, and there is no tide issues, you can as much time as you like. If you are boat diving then prepare early, giving yourself time to relax before the rush to get everyone in.
Visualisation might also help. Once everything is ready, before kitting up, or just after, sit still with your eyes closed running through the dive in your mind, the entry, the descent, getting settled and buoyancy sorted before you move off, etc. This might help you relax, and also highlight anything you missed in the briefing.
Take your time, relax and enjoy the dive
Gareth