Got your point, but if that is the case then why did the DM say to us "I HAVE NEVER LOST A *********G DIVER BEFORE, if he was not responsible for us. He should have been calm and said well, it's not my fault, he left the group I am not accountable for everyone? Tell me that, please.
I do feel sorry for you, everyone else involved, including the poor DM. The unfortunately lost diver screwed up badly and paid dearly but he did it to himself. That the DM didn't think of the best words at a time of tragedy is understandable enough.
That pretty much puts the blame right where it belongs. On the victim.
Yep.
Actually no. This is a forum and in a forum there are discussions. None of us like hearing about diving deaths but we can not just make a snap decision about who to blame. To do so wouldn't teach us anything about how to avoid making the same mistakes. The only thing I can glean from this is the importance of communication. Things break down when assumptions are made.
Yeah, if you want a blog site where no one is allowed to comment, there are many free ones available on the net. You may not get many readers unless you present your case very differently than you have here, but you can.
Here, we comment, hopefully for the good of all.
FBMom, you don't list your training certs or dive location experiences on your profile, but if you want to dive with babysitting DMs, your choices are limited. I've been fortunate to have dived here and there all around North America and some of the Caribbean, and I have survived some serious screw ups on my own, but babysitting DMs are not the norm. Just depends on where you go, whom you go with, and what terms - but it's rare. Was not the case for me in Puget Sound's San Juans, California, St.Lawrence, North Carolina, Exumas, Biminis, Roatan, Belize, etc - often not the case in the Florida Keys or Cozumel even, depending on the sites & Ops.
Where
have you dived that you became so accustomed to babysitting DMs, please...?
One question, when he checked in to the dive shop, filled out all the forms, HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN RED FLAGED AS A NEWBIE, as in brand new, AND THAT FACT CONVEYED TO "DM". For this reason I hold the Dive shop mostly responsible. When you have a newbie, you do not take them to a 100 ft site, he had only a few dives post cert. Hello? Absent the first mistake, the Dive Shop, you don't have the second mistake, the DM, and you don't have the third, the diver going to 100 ft
Eh, PF - I know you dive Coz where they do tend to watch your closer, but most places look at your C-card and accept that you are certified.
"When you leave the US, you leave the US. Questions?" Out the Caribbean, rules are only guidelines - suggestion. I did 100 ft on my third Resort Dive, then got certified. It wasn't right, but it happens.
Sorry the couple did not do their pre-trip research with us here on New Divers forum, but most don't bother. It's usually more of
"Let's try scuba and see if we like it?" Luck is such a kind lady overall.
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Regards,
TGSmith
Just wanted to say: Well Said!
I have read enough and now calling BS on this thread. I was willing to give some benefit of doubt to fosterboxermom as having PTS but at this point sorry you have lost all credibility with the above post.
I do wonder? Anyone know if narcosis can be established in a post mortem? I don't think so, but I don't know? And I am wondering about that 300+ ft dive computer log too...?
Has anyone forwarded this thread to the dive op. I will not go too deep into this but we as divers are responsible for our own safety and well being. If that little voice is talking we need to listen
Oh good idea, but I doubt the Operator would want to post here - while dealing with the real investigations there, and since it all sounds weak.
FBMom, I see that you are not open to correction. Best wishes...