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...Would this be a good post under Women's Perspectives?
I agree female bullys are the worst. Because all bullys are cowards but a male bully you stand up to them and its over with female bullys you can not be aggressive back or it appears your the one being agressive
Don't move this, it's not a womens' issue.
The general issue is dealing with another diver, esp. a more established diver, with aggressive or otherwise inappropriate behavior. The problem would be no easier and much more embarassing if the sex roles were reversed, and in fact the roles of victim & aggressor have no need whatsoever to be persons of different sexes.
I agree female bullys are the worst. Because all bullys are cowards but a male bully you stand up to them and its over with female bullys you can not be aggressive back or it appears your the one being agressive
I call BS on that. You don't have to be aggressive to stop any bully....passive aggressive works great. Flatten their tires, leave burning bags of poop on their doorstep and if that doesn't work, put icy hot in the crotch of their wetsuit. Just make sure that they know it was you. If you make things painfully enough for someone they will leave u alone. I usually just assault the bully with extreme prejudice...works well for me.
While the roles of victim and aggressor have no need to be persons of different sexes; they usually are. Asserting that this type of behavior flows evenly in both directions may make us feel better but its not true.
IMO, this thread belongs where the OP wants it. That said, I'll play devils advocate.
One reason to place this discussion on the women's forum, is to increase the likelihood that it will get thoughtful and helpful responses. Many women have recent experience in dealing with unwanted physical attention. I know many men think they have this experience, but most often they've simply seen someone touch their gear; and are feeling VIOLATED.
There are a few too many macho insights in this thread that aren't really helpful. They amount to 1) Bully back or escalate this cluster (stupid and you might want to stop using that low-T gel); 2) If someone did that too my wife (we get it, you're a big strong man who will take care of your woman); or 3) Don't be bullied (sadly I couldn't find the steaming turd icon).
Sorry to the awesome guys who posted great responses. And those of you with first hand experience on the bullied side of things. You all are just the exception that proves the rule today.
---------- Post added January 6th, 2014 at 08:31 PM ----------
If you are being aggressive back...then you are being aggressive.