I would love to "like" your post. But it spans several levels and I'm not sure which you are speaking to.
Yes, this is NJ and it is all about survival, at times grace and manners go begging. The RR bridge is a common OW proving ground, but not without its teeth. Beautiful and benign until you get too close then it is ass over tin cups, or worse...
The buddy system
Tropical destination diving shops training locals
What can possibly happen? I paid a lot of money for this training...
The "Jersey" remark was, of course, a joke, based on other people's comments that I have endured in the past. I was being sarcastic. I'm New Jersey born and bred, and some of the world's best divers call this state home. Diving here can be difficult and challenging, but there is, I think, no shortage of grace and courtesy. I've had very bad experiences in other places. I've seen boats drop divers directly on top of other divers who were there first, run over lines, all kinds of things that seem to reflect the angry crass stupidity that develops when there are just too many people competing with one another, a common situation in warmer, clearer waters far to the south of my home base.
You are certainly right about the RR bridge. The student died needlessly. An instructor with too many students doing initial open water in a spot where the tide shifts can be overwhelming got impatient and deviated from common sense and basic safety. I knew this individual slightly. His shop, which disappeared forever, was located almost within walking distance of my house. I was not present at the tragedy but know a couple of people who were.
People sometimes get careless when they are rushed, trying to do too many things at once while dealing with a group of bumbling awkward first-timers. Instructors should never deviate from the most strict safety standards when training new divers for many reasons beyond basic caution.
I suppose my point is that instructors can be as foolish and dangerous as any other diver. Buddy systems are of very doubtful utility unless the divers are experienced, competent, and have developed a strong diving relationship. On new diver initial open water dives the instructor usually becomes the de facto buddy for the whole group of students.