As most of you know, and likely agree, I am a firm proponent for primary donate.
Ok.... so what is "Bogaerthian". We're not starting on revisionist histories, now, are we?
As for the primary vs. secondary discussion:
1) I have no real opinion about sidemount other than that it comes across to me as a more complicated solution to the problem that backmount solves perfectly except in very specific circumstances.
A la.... if you need to share air from a sidemount configuration then donating the primary seems like the way to go. At least you know that you can breathe whatever the other diver has in his/her mouth.
2) As for rebreathers. I have several buddies who have them and none of them dive without some kind of a bail-out, which is also YOUR bail out if push comes to shove. So there too I don't see the need for complicated discussions.
Maybe I'm missing something but if I am it is probably highly context dependent and therefore something that needs discussing before the dive.
R..