My wife and I got our OW certs in June and my wife did have some issues with getting comfortable during our certifications. After that we went to Key largo and made some did a few dives with some Encouragement and patience she made it thought the vacation and had a great time. Since then we have tried to dive here at home a couple times in Indiana and she just seems really hard for her to get comfortable with it and enjoy herself.
She says she wants to do it and she likes it. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get her to relax a little?
FWIW, I always tell new divers that diving is a process - and that divers are made, not born - there are very few naturals (not that folks who are new don't love it, just that there is a skill set to master - in over 30 years diving, I have yest to see a real new diver w/ excellent air management, boyancy, comfortability, et al).
Frankly, I hated diving for the 1st couple of years (and my wife hated it more) - times I wonder why we did not take up golf, or flying.....
What happened was we went to St Thomas, dove for a week w/ a great op and had some of the best one on one service and assistance possible - then we dove a lot - admittedly, easier (and the diving far better) in S. FL vs Indiana (We were certified and dove for the 1st 2 years in IL, right next door).
Maybe your wife will be a "warm water diver" - lets face it; much easier to jump over in FL, Cozumel, Bonaire, Cayman, etc than some cold, dark quarry in the Midwest.
However.....before she throws in the regulator, I would urge her to get back w/ her instructor, and do an in depth (pun intended) skill review. If you otherwise like the instructor, and he/she wants to be paid for the time, do it - but I'd explain things first.
Then, I'd ask for the name of a good, patient, mature dive master to do a few local dives - with the DM as your wifes buddy. Get her agreement in advance that she is going to really give it her best shot - if not you are wasting her time and $$$. Still, its cheaper than a week in Little Cayman
If after a skills review, 6 - 10 dives w/ a DM, she just does not like it, or is still uncomfortable - you have your answer.
If money and time are not issues, there are many places (Key Largo, Grand Cayman, Cozumel, Roatan, aswell as 100 others) where you can spend a week and get great diving and some personalized attention. But try the local option 1st.