Zoe83, let me try and put this in a different perspective than what others have. My wife, scbababe has given you really good insight, and not to defend her position ('cause she doesn't need it), but to perhaps give you a guy's perspective, let me make this comparison.
Men are quite similar to sharks. Sharks are Apex predators, and indiscriminally pursue anything that resembles prey. So, elementary, if people in the water don't look like prey, sharks are likely not to bother them. (scbababe will disagree with me on this, but....) The reason why men act this way is due to one thing of which women have very little, testosterone. While levels of this hormone vary from man to man, it is nevertheless why men (straight men, that is) pursue women, regardless of who they are, or who they befriend. If the woman gives the man, conciously or otherwise, any room for pursuit, guess what, he will pursue her.
Some men have a better handle on their testosterone driven instincts, and would, for example, ask your boyfriend if it would be ok if they danced with you. This, IMHO, is more of an act of respecting you than it is an act of respect towards him, although it is nevertheless. Your boyfriend's "mates" obviously have no respect for you, and perhaps very little for him. What I would suggest is that you ask yourself why do they not have respect for you; am I acting, conciously or otherwise, like "prey"? Your boyfriend obviously has more than enough reason to trust you. However, you need to trust yourself as well, and perhaps the only way to avoid these situations that make you feel uncomfortable is to remove yourself from the equation all together.
Men are quite similar to sharks. Sharks are Apex predators, and indiscriminally pursue anything that resembles prey. So, elementary, if people in the water don't look like prey, sharks are likely not to bother them. (scbababe will disagree with me on this, but....) The reason why men act this way is due to one thing of which women have very little, testosterone. While levels of this hormone vary from man to man, it is nevertheless why men (straight men, that is) pursue women, regardless of who they are, or who they befriend. If the woman gives the man, conciously or otherwise, any room for pursuit, guess what, he will pursue her.
Some men have a better handle on their testosterone driven instincts, and would, for example, ask your boyfriend if it would be ok if they danced with you. This, IMHO, is more of an act of respecting you than it is an act of respect towards him, although it is nevertheless. Your boyfriend's "mates" obviously have no respect for you, and perhaps very little for him. What I would suggest is that you ask yourself why do they not have respect for you; am I acting, conciously or otherwise, like "prey"? Your boyfriend obviously has more than enough reason to trust you. However, you need to trust yourself as well, and perhaps the only way to avoid these situations that make you feel uncomfortable is to remove yourself from the equation all together.