Alot of places I've read about people dissing certain octo setups, saying that it's "not normal, so your buddy won't know how to use it." When I got my certification, they told us to always go over your buddy's gear before you dive, make sure you know how their octo is hung, ask if they want you to take the octo or your main, see how their power iflate/deflate works, so you could add or dump for them in an emergency, etc. Before I dive, I make sure my buddy knows my setup (which before changed sometimes, becuase it was all rental gear) and that I know his, if there were a problem, we both know where to reach for what. I also love to fool around underwater and manuall inflate the BC, at the surface when others are using their regs, I switch between reg and snorkel just for practice. I drive stickshift alot, and if I'm tired or bored, I'll shift in between a few gears and see if I can get the RPM's just right by ear for near seamless shifting. Buddy breathing is more difficult I'm sure than manually inflating your BC, but I have some practice at breathing, removing, waiting, (in this case, inflating BC somewhat), putting reg back in mouth, purge or exhale depending on how my lungs are doing, and breathe.
And when it comes to air, I don't modify things myself. I was willing to mess around with the power inflator, but not the air that goes into my lungs!
I could go to home depot and screw around with stuff until I got a homemade T built, but I wouldn't do that. I;d b ewilling to pay for a proper fitting made to be used underwater.