Your post made me realize something. Do people who carry pony bottles discuss various scenarios with their dive buddy? I've seen a lot of divers on vacation who get assigned a buddy and never discuss signals, dive profiles, etc. Add a pony bottle to the mix and there is more room for confusion.There are two more issues with pony bottles that I don't see addressed very often in these threads so I'll bring them up here.
Often times divers will frown on the use of pony bottles for redundancy (buddy is your redundancy) and yet they show up with doubles. In this case they are basically arguing that you shouldn't have a pony for redundancy but they aren't relying solely on a buddy for redundancy since they show up with doubles. Doesn't make sense.
I also think a pony bottle user should make it clear to dive buddies that carrying the pony bottle changes nothing regarding anyone's training. If anyone is OOA then the buddy donates their spare regulator. Forget the pony bottle. If the pony bottle user choses to use it fine but don't assume anything. Also, if the pony bottle owner choses to donate the bottle that's fine as well but don't assume that either. The point here is that using a pony bottle doesn't make one a less effective buddy. It just provides one additional option.
If my buddy has a pony bottle and gets into an OOA situation, I expect him to ask for share air before heading for the surface. Will he go share air before the pony bottle? If I get into an OOA situation will he hand me the oct, his primary or the pony?
Personally, I won't have a problem because I discuss these things even when a pony bottle isn't in the mix. If I saw someone with a pony bottle I'd ask them about it as well. What about those people who don't clarify it?
Additionally, if my buddy has a pony bottle is he going to be less diligent about staying nearby? Will he unconsciously think, "I have a pony bottle. Keeping my buddy, aka redundant air source, close isn't as important."