Storm
Contributor
a) NO
b) NO
c) NO
When Judy and I decided, as a couple, to take lessons, yes I inititated the thought but left the decision entirely up to her, we trained together, took our OW and AOW together. We did split up a few times in the pool, but we dove together for all the open water dives. She felt more comfortable, with me close by her, but she learned practiced, and tested her skills by herself, carried and assembled her own gear, did her own dive planing, and log book work. I insisted on it.
I felt that if I got involved, I would be hampering her learning, and thus placing her at risk, so other than learning to be a good buddy for her (team drills etc) I forced myself to stay completely out of the DI's way.. to make sure she was competent in her own right. She's my dive buddy and equal...not my dependant.
So I pity any boat captain or DM who tries to split us up on a rec dive. I'd just sit back and watch my wife tear the strips off of them. Like redhatmama, my wife would look at this as sexist, interfering and an unfair critique of her diving abilities.
I also agree that once a dive team has realy gelled as a team (which is how my wife and I view ourselves...as a cohesive dive team), IMO, it may actually be unsafe to force each dive partner to buddy up with someone they don't fully trust.
b) NO
c) NO
When Judy and I decided, as a couple, to take lessons, yes I inititated the thought but left the decision entirely up to her, we trained together, took our OW and AOW together. We did split up a few times in the pool, but we dove together for all the open water dives. She felt more comfortable, with me close by her, but she learned practiced, and tested her skills by herself, carried and assembled her own gear, did her own dive planing, and log book work. I insisted on it.
I felt that if I got involved, I would be hampering her learning, and thus placing her at risk, so other than learning to be a good buddy for her (team drills etc) I forced myself to stay completely out of the DI's way.. to make sure she was competent in her own right. She's my dive buddy and equal...not my dependant.
So I pity any boat captain or DM who tries to split us up on a rec dive. I'd just sit back and watch my wife tear the strips off of them. Like redhatmama, my wife would look at this as sexist, interfering and an unfair critique of her diving abilities.
I also agree that once a dive team has realy gelled as a team (which is how my wife and I view ourselves...as a cohesive dive team), IMO, it may actually be unsafe to force each dive partner to buddy up with someone they don't fully trust.