For me the 19 was based on my air consumption. Easy enough to figure out what works for a given person. Go to your max depth with an AL80, note your PSI, do a clean ascent, with whatever safety stops you would like, note your PSI back at the surface.
For me, safety stops consist of a minute at 35' plus 3 minutes at 15'.
Anyhow, when you know the delta PSI, convert it to cubic feet. An AL80, 3000 psi = 77.4 ft3 of gas. If I start ascent at 1250 psi, am at the surface at 600, I've burned 650 psi; (650/3000) * 77.4 = 16.8 ft3, so for me a 19cf is "right sized" without pushing things.
(The number comes out a bit under 19, definitely greater than 13, and I want a bit for adrenaline factor/analysis of what's wrong.)
Zero disagreement from me that a Spare Air or anything else may do the trick for a given diver, under their given conditions. Just trying to share my empirical method of determining what works for me, why I chose my particular configuration. Someone with a lower SAC could easily conclude that a 13CF works for them, same profile.
A 6CF tank is equivalent to 6/77.4 * 3000 = 232 psi on an AL80. If I could ascend cleanly from my maximum depth on that gas I'd be a happy camper
For me, the really small bottles just wouldn't work unless I constrained myself to shallow dives, though I have no reason to doubt that some divers may pull it off.
As to whether people would be willing to take a pony on vacation, on mine there were two of us out of 19 -- call it 10%. I'm fortunate, pack light, so the pony was no issue, though the other pony user was at the opposite end of the spectrum, beaucoup luggage, but also chose to carry his rather than try to save a couple of pounds.
At the end of the day it's all about personal choices, comfort with risk. For myself, I made a conscious decision, early on, that I would dive with a pony backup, and have been consistent in carrying it. I surely can't fault others for their decisions one way or the other, just say what I do and why.