We need a computer that has large numbers, easy to use, logs dives, beeps loud, times safety stops and has a good backlight. I am having a hard time wading through online sites to determine which watches support the wish list.
Also, we are heading to Bonaire in April for our next vacation. I hope to take advantage of the shore diving, however, it will be the first time (my husband and I) will will have dove without a DM. Would it be suggested to hire someone to lead one shore dive with us to review the proper procedures?
Starting with your second question first, it's entirely up to you, but I would consider going without a DM initially on a very easy shore dive, maybe just the house reef where there will be several other divers around. If that inspires more confidence, then off you go on your own. Diving without a guide is an important step (IMO) to having greater responsibility for your diving. Bonaire is an ideal place to take this step.
Regarding the computer, nowhere is there more hype and unnecessary nonsense in the dive gear world than in recreational computers. The best way to learn about them is to first learn the basics of what they are used for; that means getting a basic grasp of decompression theory. It's not that complicated. There's a good chapter in the PADI encyclopedia on it. I'm not talking about understanding detailed technical diving information, just the basic idea of mathematical "compartments" that governs how computers calculate the NDL and N2 loading data. You'll also learn that incidence of DCS is very very low in recreational diving, and there are lots of factors that the computer has nothing to do with. As a result, no dive computer can demonstrate that it is "safer" than any other, even if it has a really conservative algorithm. Computers should be regarded as a convenience primarily.
I wouldn't put too much stock in the safety stop timer, although it is a useful feature and I can't imagine any dive computer not offering it. But in Bonaire, much of your diving will be really shallow, and you could easily trigger the safety stop timer while you're still in the middle of a dive. I would simply monitor your depth carefully and make sure that you complete each dive with a good long stop at 10-15 feet, followed by a very slow ascent to the surface.
I agree with tbone that the audible alarms are bothersome and not nearly as useful as you might think. There is an exception, for new divers it's nice to have the ascent rate alarm, until you get the hang of controlling your ascent. But in a crowd of divers, those alarms are the underwater equal of cell phones going off in restaurants. So whatever you get, make sure you can turn off the audible alarms, or you'll regret it eventually.
Have fun, and don't get talked into anything expensive.