OK I should have expanded my post a little - a diver with a pony is equipped as a solo diver. Without knowing any more about them (i.e. I just met the guy on the boat) I am going to assume they are a solo diver, because I am also someone that can and does dive solo. I don't want to dive with this person because I don't want to return to the surface half way through my enjoyable dive when they have lost contact with me. I will make my dive on my own (assuming no one else is available and I am using doubles) and let the "solo" diver dive on their own too.
Missing from this assumption, that divers with a slung redundant tank are solo divers who just drift Inattentively away on you, is location: the concept of cold water diving.
In cold water diving free-flows are not uncommon. Many Great Lakes non-doubles, non-sidemount recreational divers have redundant smaller slung tanks. It's a safety issue.
They may be good buddies or they may not be, but a slung redundant tank is no indication of this. In fact I'd rather dive in cold water with someone, including an instabuddy, who has a redundant tank than not.
And I've dived with plenty of instabuddies who just drift away, too. A person can be a solo diver and also an attentive buddy when they are not solo diving, it's not mutually exclusive.