Differences in 'Drag' from a 40. Vs a 30 vs a 19 are, frankly, trivial. I wouldn't base my choice on that perception. Likewise, the regulator is often the biggest weight issue.is there a sort of rule or guide regarding, the size of the pony bottle if you stay in the recreational limits 42m and inside your NDL, for example, 35m with 3min safety stop require approximate a 19cf bottle if you are at 40m with a safety stop at 16m for 2min and another at 5m for 3 min you need a 30cf bottle aprox, in case of emergency, I know more capacity obviusly is better but as well more wait in drag and you want to keep it in proportion.
Perhaps, a more valid basis for selection is the relationship between what you might need it for, and the capacity it provides. For example, if you routinely dive to 60 feet, and at that depth you suffer an air supply failure, how much air (from your pony) would you need to safely surface? You would probably need a minute at depth to figure out what the problem is, and reply your pony. Then you would want enough gas to ascend at a safe controlled rate (30 ft/min), and then complete a 3 min safety stop at 15 feet. To determine how much gas you need use a reasonable SAC rate - for the circumstance. While you may have a SAC rate of ~.7 cfm under normal conditions, that rate will very likely increase with stress associated with a situation where you might need to deploy your pony. So use a SAC of at least 1 cfm, possibly higher. Figure out how much gas you would need to safely ascend.
But, if you routinely / even occasionally dive to the recreational limits of 130 feet, do the same calculation. Don't simply decide on a pony because of what we say on SB about what we use. Decide on the basis of what you might need, based on the dives that you usually do.
Personally, I sling a 30 or 40 as my pony bottle. Those fit the diving I do, and how much air I might need. Your needs may differ, or may be similar.