As a new diver, I *think* what I need to know next is how to Establish Trim. The importance was reasonably clear from my OW training, and made clearer from your first post, so thanks! But the path to getting comfortable with Trim looks like a lot of trial and error over many dives, made more complicated by vacation diving and rental equipment. If there's a way to be more efficient about it, I'd love to know.
Rental gear is indeed part of the problem. When you rent gear, you usually get nothing but a weight belt, with no easy options for putting weight anywhere else. When I used a back inflate BCD with trim pockets in the shoulders, I found that putting the same amount of weight in the shoulder pockets as I did in the integrated pockets was perfect for me. You will rarely get that option with rental gear.
I certified two close friends when we went on a vacation to Mexico together, the dive shop we used assuring me that they would let me do that with their gear. Knowing that they would have only the most basic rental gear, I brought four bungee loops with me and used them to attach weights to their cam bands, two each. We were able to get them in such beautiful trim that the new DM we had the day after they were certified assumed they were veteran divers with at least 100 dives.
I was just cave diving in Mexico, and my buddy and I were using a sidemount system with aluminum tanks. Neither of us had ever used that system with aluminum tanks, so we weren't sure how we would weight ourselves for trim. We used those same bungee loops, which enabled us to put them almost wherever we wanted. My buddy attached them to the tops of his shoulder straps. I only needed one weight, and I put it on the small of my back.
We also had zip ties with us, and we could have used them as well.
When I go in the water wearing nothing but shorts, I sink to the bottom (fresh water or salt water). So what I have been trying to figure out for 20 years is how to get my legs not to sink.
One thing to do is to put as much weight high up as you can (see the part of my post above), which will partially balance the weight. Another thing to do is to adjust the length of your levers. The effect of weight is not just the amount of weight you have, but how far it is from your center of gravity. You can shorten your legs by bending the knees 90°, so the feet are up. You can lengthen the front levers by holding your arms out in front of you.
You can also make a change with gear. If I am diving with a wet suit, I prefer to dive with the lighter of my fin choices for the reason you describe. A few pounds can make a big difference when they are out on the ends of your feet. When I am diving with a dry suit, I prefer my heavier fins, both because I want those extra pounds (less need for lead) and because I can adjust buoyancy by controlling the bubble of air in my dry suit.