Hoag
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In many cases, finding a good buddy often means being a good buddy. (OK, I know it's a cliche, but there is truth in it.)
So, what exactly do I mean by that? IMHO (and that's all this is, my opinion), communication is everything. Start by being (brutally) honest both with yourself and with your new insta-buddy as soon as you can. Communication before you jump in is a lot easier than after you are at depth. Talk with your new buddy and genuinely listen to their replies. Make sure that they know what your experience is (Both long term and short term if necessary: "I have just over 400 dives, but I have not dove since _____ so expect me to be a little hard on air and maybe a little rusty on the first dive until I get comfortable again.") Review hand signals with them. Surprisingly, there are several variations on hand signals so if you discuss what you use for the basics, then you won't be wondering what they are trying to say when you see something you aren't expecting. Talk about what you are hoping to see, do or accomplish on this dive, or day or trip or for however long you will be paired up. Keep in mind, that these goals might change over time. Listen to your insta-buddy when they give you their info. Communication is a two way street.
After your dive, "debrief" the dive. Talk to your insta-buddy again and ask "How did you see the dive? Is there something that I did that you didn't like or weren't expecting and what can we do so that we correct it for the next dive?" (On the next dive, remember those points and try to adjust.) If you have a buddy who bolts and leaves you behind, explain to them why that is not appropriate. If you happen to get a buddy who is a "real challenge", then try to find that sweet spot between being brutally honest with them while not being antagonistic. (You don't want to become "that guy".)
Never underestimate the value of effective communication. I was on a live aboard recently, and our group had an odd number of divers and there was a diver who was traveling as a single. I wound up as their insta-buddy. By the 2nd day, it was as if we had been diving together for years. I always knew exactly where to look to find them (slightly above and behind me and offset a little to either the left or right side). We became such an effective team (I think) because we talked both before and after the first few dives and it wasn't long before we really became good buddies for each other.
Edited to add: Oh, and BTW, I almost always dive with a camera.
So, what exactly do I mean by that? IMHO (and that's all this is, my opinion), communication is everything. Start by being (brutally) honest both with yourself and with your new insta-buddy as soon as you can. Communication before you jump in is a lot easier than after you are at depth. Talk with your new buddy and genuinely listen to their replies. Make sure that they know what your experience is (Both long term and short term if necessary: "I have just over 400 dives, but I have not dove since _____ so expect me to be a little hard on air and maybe a little rusty on the first dive until I get comfortable again.") Review hand signals with them. Surprisingly, there are several variations on hand signals so if you discuss what you use for the basics, then you won't be wondering what they are trying to say when you see something you aren't expecting. Talk about what you are hoping to see, do or accomplish on this dive, or day or trip or for however long you will be paired up. Keep in mind, that these goals might change over time. Listen to your insta-buddy when they give you their info. Communication is a two way street.
After your dive, "debrief" the dive. Talk to your insta-buddy again and ask "How did you see the dive? Is there something that I did that you didn't like or weren't expecting and what can we do so that we correct it for the next dive?" (On the next dive, remember those points and try to adjust.) If you have a buddy who bolts and leaves you behind, explain to them why that is not appropriate. If you happen to get a buddy who is a "real challenge", then try to find that sweet spot between being brutally honest with them while not being antagonistic. (You don't want to become "that guy".)
Never underestimate the value of effective communication. I was on a live aboard recently, and our group had an odd number of divers and there was a diver who was traveling as a single. I wound up as their insta-buddy. By the 2nd day, it was as if we had been diving together for years. I always knew exactly where to look to find them (slightly above and behind me and offset a little to either the left or right side). We became such an effective team (I think) because we talked both before and after the first few dives and it wasn't long before we really became good buddies for each other.
Edited to add: Oh, and BTW, I almost always dive with a camera.
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