B Lo, I think you are looking at this the wrong way. Ive never met an instructor who acted as a king that you had to get to like you in order to get a card.
Cave certification is not like an academic certification, its much more like a driving test, a pilots license, etc. As an instructor, you would not pass someone who told you about their plan to fly above their level, for example a simple VFR rated student, about to solo, who tells you that he doesnt believe in IFR ratings and who is constantly trying to rent a plane to go fly when conditions are not at the VFR level, and then he throws in that his buddy has a twin engine plane that he will borrow to take the family on long trips over water, and he doesnt need to consider emergency fuel planning because he has an EPIRB and he can land on a road anyways. Even if that student can take off and land, the instructor might not want to have his name attached to that student, who is planning on taking unacceptable risks.
In that case, it is pretty cut and dried. In others, its not so cut and dried. When a diver dies, the reason for their death has potential to reflect on the instructor. If that pilot student crashed and killed his family in the ocean, running out of fuel in a thunderstorm in that twin engine plane, and people find out that the instructor had concerns over the students plans or attitude toward safety, it could ruin the instructors career, as well as make him use all of his liability insurance life limits!
And we have had situations in cave country where people died on dives they were not certified to do after flunking lower level courses. There is currently a lawsuit from one of the deceaseds family that threatens one of the main cave diving organizations. Its a fact of life that just because someone paid for class time doesnt mean they always get a card right away. I think every parent goes through this with their child learning to drive a carwhen they turn 16 and have a year of driving under supervision, legally they can get a drivers license and go off alone. But, many parents dont take their kid to the DMV until they are sure the kid has the right attitude toward driving. Its not at all about a power trip.
You can absolutely choose your instructor based on your parameters. There are instructors with loose standards, who still manage to not have students die after certification, so far. It is important to find an instructor with a teaching style that works for you. I really like instructors who work hard to make your class fun, and who can let you know what you did stupid, without making you feel stupid. Some instructors take you under their wing for the entire class weekend and will make sure you have company at meals and such, which can help you meet people in cave country and chitchat about real life cave diving stuff. Other instructors show up for the class, and then after debriefing and planning the meeting time in the morning, head off to do their own thing. Some will give you an extra day or two of instruction for free, others charge by the day if you need extra work. Some want you to meet at 8am, some at 9, some at 10. Some want you to bring a meal to eat, others want to debrief at a restaurant after the dives. Some stick to one shop, others will take you around to multiple shops. There are men and women, and people who teach on the side and some who teach full time, some who explore and some who guide, some who have experience in caves around the world, some who mostly dive in their area, some who dive backmount only, some sidemount only, and some who do both, even some on rebreathers. Some who teach arrows for jumps, some who teach cookies, some who teach arrows and cookies, and some who teach clothespins. Some will show up in a drysuit year round, others dive a wetsuit in the summer. Some come prepared with backups if you or they have an equipment problem, others dont. Some teach tables and a bottom timer, some teach computers but prefer VPM and some prefer Buhlmann. Theres even some who teach to stuff the long hose. Its amazing the different varieties of personality you can find in cave diving, considering its not that big of a sport.
The advice to just call and chat is great. Dont call and get defensive, just call and discuss the class. Find out where they like to teach it, ask them what their best student memory was, and what their worst student ever did to be considered the worst. Ask what the entire day is like in their class, ask how they handle telling you that you did the lights out air share drill poorly and would have killed your buddy. It will probably be a 30 minute to hour long phone call, but if you have a top 5 to call based on their diving resume, you can probably narrow it down to 2 favorites after a phone call, then just see which instructor has a better calendar opening for you. I think you will find that everyone you call will be down to earth and very interested in helping you learn to cavern dive safely. Your assumption that a measurement of someone's attitude means the instructor has to like you is wrong, you misunderstood completely.
Cave certification is not like an academic certification, its much more like a driving test, a pilots license, etc. As an instructor, you would not pass someone who told you about their plan to fly above their level, for example a simple VFR rated student, about to solo, who tells you that he doesnt believe in IFR ratings and who is constantly trying to rent a plane to go fly when conditions are not at the VFR level, and then he throws in that his buddy has a twin engine plane that he will borrow to take the family on long trips over water, and he doesnt need to consider emergency fuel planning because he has an EPIRB and he can land on a road anyways. Even if that student can take off and land, the instructor might not want to have his name attached to that student, who is planning on taking unacceptable risks.
In that case, it is pretty cut and dried. In others, its not so cut and dried. When a diver dies, the reason for their death has potential to reflect on the instructor. If that pilot student crashed and killed his family in the ocean, running out of fuel in a thunderstorm in that twin engine plane, and people find out that the instructor had concerns over the students plans or attitude toward safety, it could ruin the instructors career, as well as make him use all of his liability insurance life limits!
And we have had situations in cave country where people died on dives they were not certified to do after flunking lower level courses. There is currently a lawsuit from one of the deceaseds family that threatens one of the main cave diving organizations. Its a fact of life that just because someone paid for class time doesnt mean they always get a card right away. I think every parent goes through this with their child learning to drive a carwhen they turn 16 and have a year of driving under supervision, legally they can get a drivers license and go off alone. But, many parents dont take their kid to the DMV until they are sure the kid has the right attitude toward driving. Its not at all about a power trip.
You can absolutely choose your instructor based on your parameters. There are instructors with loose standards, who still manage to not have students die after certification, so far. It is important to find an instructor with a teaching style that works for you. I really like instructors who work hard to make your class fun, and who can let you know what you did stupid, without making you feel stupid. Some instructors take you under their wing for the entire class weekend and will make sure you have company at meals and such, which can help you meet people in cave country and chitchat about real life cave diving stuff. Other instructors show up for the class, and then after debriefing and planning the meeting time in the morning, head off to do their own thing. Some will give you an extra day or two of instruction for free, others charge by the day if you need extra work. Some want you to meet at 8am, some at 9, some at 10. Some want you to bring a meal to eat, others want to debrief at a restaurant after the dives. Some stick to one shop, others will take you around to multiple shops. There are men and women, and people who teach on the side and some who teach full time, some who explore and some who guide, some who have experience in caves around the world, some who mostly dive in their area, some who dive backmount only, some sidemount only, and some who do both, even some on rebreathers. Some who teach arrows for jumps, some who teach cookies, some who teach arrows and cookies, and some who teach clothespins. Some will show up in a drysuit year round, others dive a wetsuit in the summer. Some come prepared with backups if you or they have an equipment problem, others dont. Some teach tables and a bottom timer, some teach computers but prefer VPM and some prefer Buhlmann. Theres even some who teach to stuff the long hose. Its amazing the different varieties of personality you can find in cave diving, considering its not that big of a sport.
The advice to just call and chat is great. Dont call and get defensive, just call and discuss the class. Find out where they like to teach it, ask them what their best student memory was, and what their worst student ever did to be considered the worst. Ask what the entire day is like in their class, ask how they handle telling you that you did the lights out air share drill poorly and would have killed your buddy. It will probably be a 30 minute to hour long phone call, but if you have a top 5 to call based on their diving resume, you can probably narrow it down to 2 favorites after a phone call, then just see which instructor has a better calendar opening for you. I think you will find that everyone you call will be down to earth and very interested in helping you learn to cavern dive safely. Your assumption that a measurement of someone's attitude means the instructor has to like you is wrong, you misunderstood completely.