JoyfulLee, what I hear in the original post is that you were frightened for your buddy, and angry that the other diver didn't provide the help you think was needed. Fear often turns to anger . . . I ended up having to apologize to one of my teammates on Sunday, because I got into a situation that frightened me, and I blew up at him, and I was much harsher than the situation warranted. I think that's kind of where you were, and what the almost unanimous reaction has been is to tell you that there wasn't that much to be frightened about, that the other diver probably did what was appropriate, and that you both may have brought his reaction upon yourselves by the manner in which you were conducting your dive.
We dive as buddies because things go wrong. Equipment sometimes fails, and even more often, WE fail -- in technique, in planning, in decision-making, or whatever. Your buddy is there as redundant thinking, as well as redundant gas and redundant gear. When you are alone in the water, you have said to the diving world that you have decided you can handle your issues alone. There are people who dive solo, and people who dive in pairs but with a solo mentality -- but in general they have or should have reached a level of competence where they can handle the vast majority of problems with equanimity by themselves. It sounds as though your BF actually did this -- assessing the loss of buoyancy and deciding not to continue the dive, and ditching weight and swimming up. We can ask some questions about appropriate weighting, if he could not swim his single tank rig up without dropping weights, but in very thick neoprene, this may be possible. Nonetheless, he coped and ended the dive safely. This was what the other diver clearly thought he would do, and it's probably what I would have expected, had I run into a solo diver with a torn inflator hose. I would also have expected that such a diver, if he felt unable to cope alone, would have emphatically signaled me to stay with him and assist.
I don't know why you guys feel that descending separately and catching up maybe later on a drift dive, when you're as inexperienced as you are, is a valid concept, but then again, I'm a died-in-the-wool team diver, and such a thing is inconceivable to me. But if you guys feel that strategy is acceptable, you both need to be prepared to handle anything the dive throws at you -- and that includes failures of buoyancy AND gas loss, as well as entanglement, getting lost, losing a mask, or any other number of diving problems. Me -- I'm not at all happy about planning on coping with those things alone, so I dive with a team.
Yesterday, we got our butts chewed in a class for being unable to keep our team together and on the descent line, in about three feet of viz in significant current. That's because we believe that being together and there for one another is the highest priority in diving. You can make other decisions, but then you have to live with the consequences of them.
Mull this over, and decide whether you want to revise your diving practices a bit.