What about something more objectively dangerous. Say someone with a tank of 36% planning on doing a 150ft dive... Would you attempt to stop them?
It wouldn’t be my place to be the boat’s scuba cop, but I might mention something to the divemaster or crew/captain - somebody in charge.
If they had a concern let them deal with it, it’s their boat and their responsibility.
The only time I would definitely speak up without hesitation is if I knew for a fact that someone was left at a dive site and they were about to leave.
Where do you draw the line? when something doesn’t quite fit your personal approval standards but may not necessarily be fatal, or something that has been proven to be fatal?
What about the zealot that begins to spout off about how air is unsafe to be used at all and only 32% can be used, and if you go beyond 100’ you need trimix. I knew a guy like that and he was very vocal about it, to the point of being annoying. But in his mind anything but this was unsafe and he was genuinely trying to help people. He paid a lot of money to be willingly brainwashed and by god he was going to get his moneys worth!
What about someone jumping in with no BC? There are plenty of newer generation divers that would see this as a death sentence and certain suicide, but in Southern California for instance there is a whole cadre of old bug divers that this is perfectly normal and they’ve been doing this for years. You’d look pretty stupid haranguing them about their style. Tell the boat crew about your concerns and you’d get laughed at. But you see, this is cultural in that part of the world.
In the case of the OP, after a gentle ribbing asking the new guy about “Who is Patty” (giggle), I would sit down and have a friendly conversation with him (friend to friend) and in a very friendly manner try to open his mind to the varied configurations and how they work.
Of course it’s up to the new guy to have the capacity to put down his new found “expertise” and have the ability to “hear” what you might have to say.
Scuba diving has a rich history of gear and configurations and there is no one right way.