Exactly. No matter our background, age, or persuasion, we should all be open to learning other people's perspectives. That is what makes us American. Or should, anyways.
Yep. We learn, we evolve. At least I hope we do. And some of us take a while.
When I was a kid, the N word was widely used and nobody made any fuss over it (at least not in
my circle - which was white, mainstream, the "dominant" culture). Of course, soon enough I figured out that if I used that word in some circumstances, I better be ready for a fight. Regardless of whether a fight would leave me hospitalized, as I grew up, and as society evolved, it became painfully obvious how inappropriate (and how hurtful, and how racist) that term was.
When I was a kid, the O word was routinely used, too. We had words for all sorts of ethnic and racial groups. Lots of us used those words, with no thought to it. Fast forward to today. If you still use those words (including some that would have once seemed acceptable to refer to someone from Cozumel), people would cringe (in some cases, a fight may still occur). We all did stupid things long ago. Hopefully with the passage of time, and gaining a wider perspective, we come to treat other people with what they would recognize as more respect. And that's the point: as an old, white guy (just speaking for myself, but knowing the demographic here), it's not for
me to choose how other people prefer to be recognized and described. I can assure you, all those people whose ancestors come from the largest continent on earth don't appreciate anyone using the O word. Trust me, or just ask one of them.
So yeah, maybe you're late to learn this lesson. As someone else said upthread: carpets can be oriental. To refer to a race of people that way is like using the N word. Really. I bet tossing around the N word here would get moderated pretty fast. This is no different.
I like MMM and went diving with her a bunch last year. She's got a good head on her shoulders and I figure she has sense enough to see this fairly. Onward.