I have never had a problem with ANY dive op as far lead is concerned. I tell them that I have 3 plans. 1. normal diving in 77, 78 degree temps with my 3 mil I need 12lbs. 2, If after 3 days of 4 dives a day I need to put on a 3 mil shortie so I need 2 more lbs. Then 3, you throw in a night dive, I want to put on a 5/3 mil hooded vest and yes I ask for additional weight. I always ask for this when my week starts so I don't have to bother anyone for the rest of the trip. I thought it was just courtesy. All of the DM's thanked me for the heads up and didn't have to bother them for the rest of trip. Not like I was taking the lead with me on the plane home.
Several times over the years I have have the op roll their eyes, and question my weight request. I simply explained that I am continually experimenting with weighting and will probably be trading weight back mid week for lighter. Never been a real issue.
I do find that such questioning early on helped motivate me to keep dropping weight, til I reach a point I went too far, and then add just a 2#. I have never stopped playing with this balance.
On Bonaire in just a skin my 6# plate is more than enough, while 3 weeks ago in Coz, in a 3mm I found the 6# plate plus 6# of lead was plenty. Every one of us has differing needs and comfort levels, and I enjoy chasing that edge to where I have just enough weight to do the dive, but I dive with others who want a little extra lead. In the end it is what makes you the most comfortable and gives you the needed control at all points during your dive.
But this thread is really not started to discuss weighting as much as it is about attitude and became an exercise in tolerance for others who make different choices than we have.