-Do all these backplates & wings interchange?
Pretty much. If you aren't using an STA, you do need to make sure the slots in the wing and plate line up well enough to let the cam bands pass through both. But everyone makes the slots oversize so it usually works. You can ask the shop or here about your particular combo before you take the plunge.
-What's the general consensus on shoulder pads or chest straps?
Don't.
Some, but not all, people who have long hard walks to get to their dive site like the pads. But that's about it. Remember that we are talking about 2 full inches of width on the straps so the weight is spread over a large area when you are walking. The pads offer no advantage once you are in the water, it's just something you'll have to counter with additional lead.
I can't think of any reason to add a chest strap (although someone will now join in to disagree
). The dynamics of diving are very different from backpacking. You want the shoulder straps to be somewhat loose. The waist belt and crotch strap keep everything under control.
-Iassume everyone adds dumpable weight pockets to the waist belt?
Many if not most warm water divers do some version of this. I use an xscuba trim pocket on each side that can hold up to a 5lb hard weight.
Some divers are happy with non-ditchable weight and will add lead to their plates via trim pockets, weighted STAs, zip-ties, screw in plates, etc.
Weight belts and weight harnesses are still popular for those that need more weight than can be held in a couple of waist band pockets. Especially for those that need to make sure their rig is neutral so they can don and doff in the water (diving off a kayak for example)