Hi Katie. Welcome to diving!!
I have basically tried them all. Jacket, Backinflate, traveller, womens and BP/W.
My experience... If you have any kind of waist... Ie, pear-shaped or hourglass shape, I recommend a backplate and wing. The reasons are:
Jackets: Hate them. If you are slightly broader around you a** then your waist, it will ride up under your arms and feel weird on the surface. They also hug and feel restricting when it comes to breathing. A lot of fabric will cause positive buoyancy and hence the need for extra lead which makes everything more heavy and cumbersome on land.
Back inflate: Nothing to squeeze your waist/lungs, but same problem with riding up in the surface. Easier to trim out, but still a good amount of fabric that cause positive buoyancy.
Socalled "female" bcds. Se reasons above depending on the category. In addition they require you to fit them perfectly not to feel restricting.
Backplate and wing:
Simple construction. Modular, so if diving changes, so will your bcd. Crotchstrap may look uncomfortable, but really is not. (And there are options: 1" or 2" webbing. Soft or stiffer.) The strap will keep the bcd where it is supposed to be. Every time. Every dive. All the way through the dive. In a BPW with a continuous webbing you set the "size" one time, and it fits perfectly right for every dive. No pulling straps to tighten. The way it is constructed keeps all straps and stuff away from the b**b area. It is clean in the front. There is very little extra fabric, and hence the bcd is negative from the getgo. There are a lot of options to place lead. Some get them bolted to the plate. Some have pockets on the webbing.
This is a no-brainer. I am a girl with a barn-door a**. (Pardon my language) A reasonably small waist and a bit of boobage. The only thing I can get that fit is a BPW. (It will also fit weight change)
Edit: I saw your newest post. In my opinion you are a perfect candidate for at BPW with a small plate. If you search for posts made by TSandM, you can read her view on things (sadly she has passed) From what I can see, both you and her are petite women.