Took another look at this thread today trying to get a sense of what happened and why it's been interpreted so. A few thoughts:
1.) When someone new on their 1st or 2nd post on the forum launches a scathing attack slamming a largely reputable well-known service provider, it's apt to be met with skepticism. Trip Advisor reviews have a rep. for having some fake reviews by competitors to damage a business's standing. That said, people who feel 'burned' may reach out to new places to spread the word, and this review is long and detailed, not a cursory generic 'It sucks!' type review. I think it's legit.
2.) Of the 4 trips, one was claimed to be 'perfect' in the Trip Advisor review. Buddy Dive Resort has historically had a good rep.; some years back it seemed to be Bonaire's golden boy, before Dive Friends surged to its current popularity (judging from this forum, and they are good). I can see where someone might stick it out awhile despite bad experience, but at this point, I suggest going elsewhere next time. Some issues (e.g.: the tour bus driver and police) weren't directly related to Buddy Dive Resort.
Since the original poster mentioned some things without it being clear how important they were to him (eg.: no sand volleyball court, pool inundated with beer bottles and people drinking in the pool, 'horrible' tiki bar service and rude dive shop staff), I wonder just what his list of wants/needs are. If we knew, perhaps someone could produce a good recommendation for an alternative. Something like 'nice pool with good pool bar service and enforce no drinking in the pool' (if you can find such a thing) might narrow it way down.
I suspect the need to keep customers happy (ironic in context of this thread) may make resort staff reluctant to crack down on drinking in the pool and whatever the bottle situation was.
I don't have any strong opinions on Dutch or Bonairian manner; I've read in a place or two in the past perhaps it's a little different than mainstream America? Perhaps there's a cultural difference in manner not being navigated well that's mistaken as rudeness? Just speculating.
Richard.