Very well put.Ultimately, you are responsible for yourself in this life.
Common sense is not very common. I have noticed that the people who get hurt in one sport seem to get hurt in multiple sports. They also seem to be the ones duped by scams and confidence schemes. They never seem to catch a break. In fact, they have abdicated taking responsibility for their lives for so long that they are really bothered when they aren't coddled and their hands held. If you don't possess a healthy dose of skepticism then people are going to get you to do stupid things your whole life. Life is tough. You can either be smart and safe or accept the lumps that come from blindly following others.How is a new student supposed to do these things?
This is blame shifting and I find it as odious as it is insidious. I don't blame society for who I am: I blame me. I don't buy into the litigious nature of our society that wants to blame the other guy. Unless I am t-boned, the three people at fault for any accident I am in is me, myself and I. The buck stops with me.Human behaviour is a consequence of the system we operate in and we need to create a system whereby risk is more obvious than it currently is in diving.
This, I fully agree with. The Mod Squad has worked hard to make ScubaBoard's Accidents & Incidents as well as Near Misses a positive learning zone. The same with the "Green Zones" that are comprised with New Divers and Basic Scuba. The "you're gonna die" mentality is just as anathema as the "it's just not my fault" mentality. It's great to be gentle and patient with newbies, but you'll notice a less gentle approach in the advanced and tech sections. If you encounter an overly harsh miscreant or troll, don't fight it out yourself. REPORT IT! That way the mods have something to do and they will let you know what, if anything, was done in regards to your report.The solution is to be more open about the near-misses, incidents and accidents which happen.
It's cathartic to share what you've been through and even tell us what you learned from it. However, be prepared for other users to help you put things in perspective. The lessons you learned may not be the only lessons you should have learned and frankly, you may have missed the point entirely. Put on your big boy/big girl undies and open your mind to learning something you weren't expecting. Don't justify your mistakes: learn from them. You're going to miss the best points if you're wasting your efforts being defensive. Humility is an essential part of learning.