Where is the line between minding my own business?

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I posted yesterday on her blog and asked if she would download the profiles. She has not responded yet. I'll keep watching and let you know when and if she responds and/or downloads them.

Note: It was actually her forum where she was looking for a buddy that I posted, not her blog. She has not written it yet.
 
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I didn't have time to read everyone's response but I think you were too subtle. I think you should have posted, "Do you think you should be diving against medical advice and risking a THIRD session in the decompression chamber? I didn't appreciate having to drag your unconscious body out of the water last time and I doubt your new dive buddy will enjoy it either!!!"

What you did post is hopefully sufficient enough.

Thank you for starting this thread. It makes me think twice about who I pick as a dive buddy.
 
I didn't want to be mean or hurtful; this person obviously has some problems, denial, antisocialism, and rudeness being the least of them. Nothing I say to her will change the way she thinks or behaves (I spent a week with her....I know......lol). I just wanted to get word out to others who might think they may want to dive with her (and who knows??? There may be people who don't care, but at least they know ahead of time what they're getting into, and they'll be doing it with eyes wide open).
 
You did the right thing, like others said maybe could of been done in a pm, but that would have been a disservice to any potential divebuddy's. What is so hard about following someone's advice especially the guys in the white labcoats, she was given medical advice and disregarded them more than once, she is a trainwreck waiting to happen, I just pray she doesn't take someone with her....
 
.......I just pray she doesn't take someone with her....


This is so true. Unfortunately, she seems to be more than willing to share the Darwin Award with some unsuspecting victim, so hopefully she learns from her many mistakes (as unlikely as that is) before the worst happens. Jupiter prevented it once....maybe someone else will prevent it a second time.
 
This is so true. Unfortunately, she seems to be more than willing to share the Darwin Award with some unsuspecting victim, so hopefully she learns from her many mistakes (as unlikely as that is) before the worst happens. Jupiter prevented it once....maybe someone else will prevent it a second time.

Well, in her forum she mentioned that..... "the best thing I can do is dive close to a buddy (who can watch for a recurrance)...something I need to practice!!! " So it sounds like she maybe learned something, but is still depending on others for her safety.
 
I just wanted to get word out to others who might think they may want to dive with her (and who knows??? There may be people who don't care, but at least they know ahead of time what they're getting into, and they'll be doing it with eyes wide open).

I think you have accomplished that simply by bringing up the matter and calling attention to the fact that she has had problems before.

Wise divers will now be wary about hooking up with her as a buddy, something they may have had no warning about before your post. That's really all you can do.

As for the unwise divers... well, there will always be those, and nothing you can do will protect people from themselves.

What's unfortunate is that all it takes is one irresponsible diver in the area to cramp everyone's style. That is, a bad diver with serious problems doesn't just negatively impact their own buddy, but often everyone else on their dive boat - like in your situation. Or even sometimes people on other dive boats in the whole area.

For example, I was out on a dive boat off West Palm Beach one time when a diver on another boat came up suddenly with problems, and their boat had to rush them back to the dock while their other divers were still in the water. Back on our boat, we were just about to put in when the captain heard the call on the radio, so we had to pull up and go pick up their divers as they came out of the water since their own boat obviously wouldn't be there. Ultimately we were delayed about two hours before we could get our own diving in, but obviously it could have been much longer - or even cancelled.

Now, I don't know if in my situation the ailing diver was being irresponsible. But what it demonstrates is how, if a diver is acting irresponsibly, it can negatively affect not just their own buddies, but the entire local diving community. So, for all our sakes... don't hesitate to call a recalcitrantly irresponsible diver out on it!

>*< Fritz
 
Well, in her forum she mentioned that..... "the best thing I can do is dive close to a buddy (who can watch for a recurrance)...something I need to practice!!! " So it sounds like she maybe learned something, but is still depending on others for her safety.


Or she is saying this because she knows you have have just put a huge crimp in the flow of possible buddies coming to her (I agree with what you did and you know that). I hope I am being too pessimistic, but her type will likely lie, cheat and steal to get a dive buddy. I hope she has learned though.
 
She will lie, cheat, and steal to get ANYTHING she wants..... I won't go into other things she did in Bonaire to get her way, because that WOULD be gossipy and mean-spirited, and there is nothing for anyone to learn from it.
 
She will lie, cheat, and steal to get ANYTHING she wants..... I won't go into other things she did in Bonaire to get her way, because that WOULD be gossipy and mean-spirited, and there is nothing for anyone to learn from it.

Well you did what you could. Now take a deep breath, close your eyes, and say HMMMMMMM. Relax your toes, then your legs, then your arms and think good diving thoughts.:D
 
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