Rishidian:
An experienced diver was lost here in the PNW because he chose to help 2 other divers who were not ready for the deep dive that they did (
http://www.scubaboard.com/showthread.php?t=166222). The 'instructor' of the class (who survived) persuaded the 2 inexperienced divers that it would be ok (thus - they were 'comfortable'), but they weren't experienced, had insufficient training (it was their AOW deep dive), had a poor buddy (one of the new divers had the instructor as a buddy, and was abandoned by him), and they were diving on AL80's (they were bouncing to 200fsw). Two other divers chose not to go that deep and stopped at about 60fsw.
Being comfortable is no reason to go, but being uncomfortable is a great reason to stop.
I'm not sure that the PNW incident is a good example of anything other than how serious diving can be, and maybe of an irresponsible instructor. There seems to be a LOT of speculation as to why the events occurred, and who may be to blame.
A further leap is that you assume that the divers were comfortable because an instructor said it's OK. Any certified diver should be aware of the dangers of going deep, and the recommended limits. Suggesting they were comfortable before the dive is pure speculation. People lie, especially if they believe they may face criminal charges. What REALLY happened is one guy died, and they were too deep. Why, how, and who is to blame is all speculation.
When I said "Comfortable" what I mean is that the diver has experience to do the depths they plan. If you have done 90' in an environment, than 100' in a similar environment is what I would consider a *comfort* level.
I'm comfortable with all the dives I plan, and that is a big part of the plan, my comfort level. If I was scared of my plan, well that is an issue.
I doubt ANY of the posters that suggested being comfortable were implying that comfort means someone else telling someone how to feel about a dive. If you are in a steam room about to pass out, the club owner telling you, "I feel great" is NOT going to change your comfort level.
Ultimately each diver is responsible for their decisions and safety. I believe the OP recognizes this. Good for him, as he is working on one thing that makes safer divers, education.