CORALCRAZED... if you can make it through this thread without being totally turned off to SB due to the tone of posts in this AND ANY spare air thread...
Scubaboard is a GREAT place to meet dive buddies. I found SB last summer and doubled my dives from the previous 4 years. I just got back from a dive vacation (to Tobermory, Ontario, Canada- not exactly the tropics...) with a group of SBers.
There were a few insta-buddy seekers on the boat. I trusted every person in our group, though. We dove together over a weekend at a local quarry before our trip and on shore dives the day before our boat dives. It's good to dive with a group of trustworthy strangers!
My husband does not dive- which leaves me in the same situation you are in. But the great thing about SB is that you can feel people out BEFORE you dive with them. Plus, you can check up on people to make sure they aren't weirdos. Well, okay, that's a loose term. I'm a weirdo, but I'm a normal weirdo, so it's okay. I checked up on Notso_Ken and Steve_Dives with Ber Rabbit before I dove with them. I didn't know Ber at the time, but after reading her posts and realizing that she has a good reputation on this board, I decided she was probably a reputable source. Now I know that SHE is a weirdo (said with love).
That has nothing to do with the Spare Air argument, and I hope that you don't take any of the posts as slams on you. If you do a search, you'll see that ALL Spare Air threads go down the same ugly road. It's not you. Spare Air brings out the worst in posters...