mike_s:
I really enjoyed the Last Dive but I have to agree with Almighty_wife and Coach_Izzy that it wasn't the "best written book". I found at times that Bernie Chowdhury was going on too much about himself instead of about the Rourke's. However, I still enjoyed the book ....
Yes, your complaints are valid if you want a book written from your perspective only. I find we need to allow breathing room with such creative projects as books and the like if we want something developed that appeals to the various personalties that make up the public.
Although I do not believe that 'diversity appeal' is the reason that Bernie went into such personal details in his book. Bernie not only used his writing to memorialize the diving events discussed in it. He also used the book as a vehicle for catharsis with his own issues and to come to peace with them. As I mentioned earlier, "fleas come with the dog" and seldom is anything created by imperfect humans going to be perfect. With my own judgments I look or direction and not perfection. Is the person, place or thing in question 'perfect enough' or is it 'too imperfect' and I just have to let it go?
Putting our complaints down on pen and paper first crystallizes in our heads what needs to be changed or accepted in our lives. Getting it all out and putting it all down is the first start of this recognition process that leads us to change. Without this recognition, that something is wrong in our lives, we cannot develop the desire for change. We don't even know what is wrong to change!
Writing your complaints down is the first start to making the roadmap for restructuring your life. Writing can be done in many venues from diaries or discussion boards such as these to writing books or articles. Restructuring our lives is very important if we want to get peace. Those things that cannot be restructured need to be accepted. Either way we can find peace -- by change or acceptance.
When you write, it uses a different part of the brain that mere speaking uses and I seem to get amazing results from writing as compared to just talking. Writing helps crystallize your thoughts. Just remember what the Buddhists say in the eightfold path about right actions. We have to use the right thoughts, the right actions and take the right direction with change. Just spinning our wheels in the wrong direction does little, so write about things that matter to you and your change. In short we must 'write right' for it to be of any benefit to us.
Take Care,
fookisan