catherine96821:
well, i listen. I got a clue on a couple of yours....I dive ok but am a pain on the boat.
No, I mean in person. It's very easy to offer help on scubaboard in response to someone asking for it. I've picked up loads of tips from people here. I've dived with people who have damaged reefs because of poor buoyancy and really wanted to say something to them, but I just can't. If I have the opportunity, I will mention it to the DM. I've tried to signal to divers who had a dangling octo to secure it, but was met with a stare. Either they don't understand or chose to ignore it.
I believe a person must want help before being receptive to it. If they're not receptive, it takes a strong authority figure (see my Right On or Rude? post) to make any progress.
Yes, a lot of newbies want help, but a lot them could care less.
The pet peeves I'm guilty of include:
Diving beyond my training and experience.
Diving with makeup (???)
Getting irritated with newbies for making newbie mistakes if it costs me dive time or makes my experience less than it could be.
Ignoring DMs if I don't like them or think them officious.
Not paying attention to the Captain's briefing.
I'm sure there are others!