i replace my rigs every 2 years and pass on a nice rig to someone else simple!
it keeps me current with the market and an instructor who dives gear out of the ark does not inspire confidence and takes his diving seriously to stay current imho
As a diving professional, I'm glad that you are in a position to replace your regulators every couple of years, most SB readers do not have that option; nevertheless, as you admit keeping current with the market is only that, a marketing ploy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with older equipment, provided that it is properly maintained. A perusal of the US Navy's Experimental Diving Unit's periodic evaluations of regulators, as well as some of the commercial reviews (taken with their marketing bias) will yield both objective and subjective reports on the best available equipment. These reports mean much more to me than getting the newest carbon fiber this or titanium that... to each his own.
As to an instructor who uses older equipment not inspiring confidence, well that's just naive. Seeing an instructor or dive master who is diving with an older model Aqualung, ScubaPro, Mares (or whatever brands your dive shop sells) regulator imparts to the student the quality of the manufacturer, longevity of the product and reliability of the regulator: in a word - Confidence.
The basic truth is that all of the available regulators on today's market are adequate for warm water recreational diving (and Nitrox capable for up to about 40% oxygen); for specialty use such as cold water, overhead, tri-mix/deep diving, commercial, etc. there is equipment available as well. Any and all of these regulators are designed to give years of service it properly maintained.
As to which octo to go with, IMHO the same brand as the primary second stage, and if possible the same model. I fall into the camp of giving the second stage that I am using to the OOA diver and going to the octo for myself. I don't want to have any variation between the two second stages in that moment of stress, therefore, give me two of the same, and I will be familiar with all controls, expected breathing effort, comfort, etc.