I agree the 18 pounds lift wing is more than enough. I am waiting for a 12 pounds lift wing!
You are approximately 5'8" and 180 pounds? If so, I cannot see how the VDH 18 would not be anything but perfect for you. Again, if you could tell the difference in the water between the VDH and Oxy wings you are a better "feeler" than me, lol.
I am a believer in as little weight on as possible. I do not follow the (PADI) taught method of overweighting and then venting a nearly full BC on the surface and then plummeting down feet (usually butt first) and crashing upon the reef and bouncing across the top of the reef whilst trying to get neutral and then water walking across the top of the reef. Like my sig line, SWIM down, swim around, then swim back up and the swimming is done in a horizontal position. I am usually set such that I need to swim down to ten to twenty feet before my suit compresses and trapped air vents out of the suit and equipment to become slightly negative. A puff or two of air in the wing is all I then need throughout the dive. I do not enter the water with my wing inflated, why, in fact, I suck mine flat. Since I am slightly buoyant or neutral upon entry I will not plummet to the bottom, I can loiter on the surface in the case of forgetting my fins, or turning on my air or whatever eventuality.
James